Death anxiety Watch
( im atheist btw) Hello. I was recently getting upset about my cat who passed a few months ago and it led to me thinking what it's like after death. I just suddenly am really scared about it and i know it will happen to all of us someday and the thought of just doing nothing for eternity really scares me. I know it's stupid and inevitable but it really makes me afraid even thought I have so many years left.
When I was younger I questioned what happened when we died. I thought it would likely be similar to when you go to sleep and don’t dream at all, except you never wake up again. So complete non existence essentially. However later on I began to consider the ‘soul’ more and if something may stay- I eventually formed the idea of the essence of a person being left behind after death to be on earth for eternity and unable to interact with it, like an invisible ghost I guess. For some reason this idea stuck with me even though I don’t really believe in paranormal stuff, and so I started to become terrified of death thinking I would become entrapped in some never ending limbo being the 3rd person to everybody else’s lives.
I eventually got involved with volunteering at a hospice. I interacted with so many people on the brink of death, I talked to them, listened to their stories and fears and opinions, I learnt more, I even saw a couple of dead bodies (!). Of course I’m not suggesting something as extreme as that unless you’re genuinely interested, but I honestly found it to be quite dramatic in the way it shifted my perspective. No I don’t have any more clarity into what happens when we die- no one does. But I can appreciate how much time really does fly, how regrets come back to haunt you, and how loving each day as though it’s your last really is a good way to live.
TLDR; learn more about what it is you’re afraid of. Change your perspective on it for the better. Change the fear into motivation for the things you want most in life. Don’t think about it too much.
when you die that's it the end..
Just make the most of what you have now..