My boyfriend had a threesome while we were broken up and I saw videos.

idkkkkkkkkkk

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**** you people

(edited 3 years ago)

Reply 1

Alienated.

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Could you summarize that for me please?

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Either try and get over it or break up with him if you can’t. In all fairness you slept with other people too so he didn’t do anything much worse than you

Reply 3

username5443076

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Original post by Anonymous

Either try and get over it or break up with him if you can’t. In all fairness you slept with other people too so he didn’t do anything much worse than you

I agree so you cant really say anything about it because tis fair game

Reply 4

Alienated.

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Original post by Alienated.

Could you summarize that for me please?

Ok since I actually read it this time I'd say it doesn't matter what he does since you've broken up therefore it's none of your business and since you slept with other guys too, I don't think you have much right to complain.

Reply 5

candydiva

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So he engaged in consensual sex with other girls while - as u say - u were "broken up for the summer"? I can't rlly see wat the problem is here.

Xcept maybe u find out he is more adventurous than u thought and for some reason it bothers u. But u should understand he prob didn't feel comfy telling u this for reasons. Maybe ur reaction is wat he xpected?

3sums can be very fun if everyone is cool! :smile:

Reply 6

Anonymous #2

Can you send me your bf's e-mail so I can give him a virtual high five?

Reply 7

username5443076

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Original post by Anonymous

Can you send me your bf's e-mail so I can give him a virtual high five?

I second that lol

Reply 8

Zarek

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Sounds a bit gross. Mind you sex drive is a peculiar thing and presume it was consensual. Regarding the lying, it can be difficult to tell the truth if it’s clear from the way you are asked that if you tell the truth all hell will break loose. I think you either have to decide to put this firmly behind you or dump him.

Reply 9

Foxehh

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You both were broken up, you have no right to hold anything he did during that time against him.

The real question is why on earth were you going through is phone?

Reply 10

candydiva

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Mr Fox yeah this thread demonstrates the all-too-inevitable end to all phonesnooping!

Reply 11

username5443076

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Original post by LovelyMrFox

You both were broken up, you have no right to hold anything he did during that time against him.

The real question is why on earth were you going through is phone?

PREACHH

Reply 12

idkkkkkkkkkk

OP

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Original post by LovelyMrFox

You both were broken up, you have no right to hold anything he did during that time against him.

The real question is why on earth were you going through is phone?

Okay I didn’t wanna add this part bc it seemed like a lot of explanation but whatever. my bff told me she saw his tinder on her tinder which means it’s active so i asked him and he said no you can check so i went on to see the last time it was active and a chat w a girl was there that said “hey i saw you taking videos can you send them” and i saw them from there

Reply 13

vapordave

Debate & Current Affairs Helper

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Original post by idkkkkkkkkkk

Okay I didn’t wanna add this part bc it seemed like a lot of explanation but whatever. my bff told me she saw his tinder on her tinder which means it’s active so i asked him and he said no you can check so i went on to see the last time it was active and a chat w a girl was there that said “hey i saw you taking videos can you send them” and i saw them from there

He lied, but you completely violated his privacy and found something completely fine that you didn't like.
He probably just forgot to deactivate his tinder?

Reply 14

Foxehh

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Original post by idkkkkkkkkkk

Okay I didn’t wanna add this part bc it seemed like a lot of explanation but whatever. my bff told me she saw his tinder on her tinder which means it’s active so i asked him and he said no you can check so i went on to see the last time it was active and a chat w a girl was there that said “hey i saw you taking videos can you send them” and i saw them from there

Like Vapordave said, he couldve just forgotten to deactivate his tinder.

You shouldnt need to look through his stuff and he shouldnt need to offer, the relationship lacks trust. Its doomed.

(edited 3 years ago)

Reply 15

idkkkkkkkkkk

OP

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Original post by Anonymous

Either try and get over it or break up with him if you can’t. In all fairness you slept with other people too so he didn’t do anything much worse than you

It’s the fact that I saw the videos not that he did it. The part i’m struggling with is the images in my head.

Reply 16

idkkkkkkkkkk

OP

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Original post by Zarek

Sounds a bit gross. Mind you sex drive is a peculiar thing and presume it was consensual. Regarding the lying, it can be difficult to tell the truth if it’s clear from the way you are asked that if you tell the truth all hell will break loose. I think you either have to decide to put this firmly behind you or dump him.

I didn’t ask him in a mean way i just simply said did you video them and he said no because he didn’t wanna hurt me which i guess i understand. It’s just the fact that i saw it is what’s effecting me.

Reply 17

idkkkkkkkkkk

OP

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Original post by Anonymous

Can you send me your bf's e-mail so I can give him a virtual high five?

Can you bug off? I’m looking for someone to help me not make me feel worse

Reply 18

idkkkkkkkkkk

OP

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Original post by LovelyMrFox

Like Vapordave said, he couldve just forgotten to deactivate his tinder.

You shouldnt need to look through his stuff and he shouldnt need to offer, the relationship lacks trust. Its doomed.

okay if you knew anything about tinder you wouldn’t have even posted this. if you’re not on it in the last seven days it automatically considers your profile inactive. we do trust eachother i’ve been with him for three years pretty sure i would know if we trusted eachother. either way this is not the point. all i needed was someone to explain how i could get passed this in my own head.