First off, I love my boyfriend and everything is going really well, but I have some slight concerns:
1) he’s quite a big smoker
This is something that was initially a deal breaker for me, but I didn’t realise he was a smoker until I got to know him and liked him so much that I thought I’d just deal with it.
It’s partly due to the fact that his housemate smokes, because he’s always got someone to smoke with. However he does smoke on his own too, and not round me, because he knows I don’t like it.
He’s also mentioned quitting for me, and he’s said that he’s partly smoking because it’s the routine of it. He said quitting is “on the cards” but hasn’t said anything else. He also has admitted to being addicted.
2) he’s also quite considerably overweight, to the point where his doctor (who he sees for MH issues) has asked him to lose weight and asks him if he’s doing exercise when he has an appointment
He’s partly like this because he’s a PhD student and so a lot of what he does is sitting still writing, paired with the fact he really likes cooking.
He talks about this quite a lot, but his view is that he doesn’t want to pay for a gym because he can just cycle and run etc, but he just doesn’t do it.
I suppose I’m asking whether I should bring it up, and if I should how should I do it?
I love him, and I can quite easily deal with both of these as they are, but it’s just not ideal