Asking a girl if she’s liked you in the past

Why would you ask that if she’s already rejected you?

To see if I was right or if i misread her.

She might lie and say yes to save your feelings

Then no, I wouldn’t be asking her that “to see if you were right”

I don’t Want her to save my feelings. That doesn’t help me. I want the honest truth.

Why not?

Because you’re putting her in an awkward spot and she doesn’t owe you anything. Proving to yourself that you were “right” shouldn’t come at the expense of others. Plus it won’t make a difference anyways-she has rejected you now so it is a moot point.

I didn’t say she owes me anything. I still have a right to ask. And she has a right to not answer if she doesn’t want to.

Of course you have a “right” to ask- but you asked whether it was ok to ask. It isn’t. You’re trying to make yourself feel better by making her either lie to you or embarrass herself by admitting feelings.
For nothing except your own ego.

Why did you ask the question if you were just going to argue with everyone who told you it was not okay to ask??

Of course you have a “right” to ask- but you asked whether it was ok to ask. It isn’t. You’re trying to make yourself feel better by making her either lie to you or embarrass herself by admitting feelings.
For nothing except your own ego.

Why did you ask the question if you were just going to argue with everyone who told you it was not okay to ask??

I wouldn't bother, chances are that she's not going to tell the truth. Leave the past in the past, I know you're curious, but there's no point either.

More frustrated than curious because of how stupidly emotionally invested I became in her. I wish I could just say how I feel about the situation to her even if it ends the friendship.

Do it then, it'll clear everything up I guess.

On your second question because I got rejected by a friend which is her right to do so obviously but I feel frustrated by the fact that I’m not allowed to say how I feel about the whole situation to her.

You are allowed to say how you feel-you did. You asked her out. She said no.
Anything else is just your hurt feelings of rejection.
Honestly what answer that she gives you will help you feel better about that?

She says yes, she used to like you. Truth
-you then start to wonder why she stopped and agonising over “if only” you’d asked her sooner. And you think that there’s still a chance so you keep hanging on.

She says yes, she used to like you. Lying.
Same as above but now your friend has been pretty much forced to lie to you as you wouldn’t let it go. It will come out at some point.

She says no, she never liked you. Truth
You get rejected all over again, you wonder what it is about you that means she never liked you. She feels bad that she’s hurt you again.

She says no, she never liked you, lying.
Same as above but now again you’ve made her lie to you about her feelings for no reason other than you haven’t accepted her rejection.

It’s a no win situation.
Yes it hurts that she’s rejected you but asking more into it will not help either of you.