If a girl is already dating a guy does that mean she doesn't want to date you?

Wellll duuuhhhhhh. If she is dating him then it means that she's attracted to him and likes him. I am guessing that you're probably friendzoned and you are orbiting her. If that's not where you want to be then you're free to also ditch her and look for another girl who's not actively dating someone else because by the time you wait she's gonna be in a long-term relationship with the guy. And then what will you do? You'll have to leave her and go for some other gurl anyway.

So like if a girl is dating a guy and you have met and known her for a few weeks or months and she is still dating him without you asking her out does that mean she prefers being with him rather than you?

Thinking on this that if she liked you enough she would either ditch him especially if they were having troubles and see if you would ask them out or ask you out or possibly try and spend more time with you/get to know you better. Would a girl just continue seeing some guy even if she liked you more and thought you may be interested & was interested in you?

I kind of feel blocked by making any sort of a move as she is already dating and in an ongoing relationship.

There's only one way to answer this question - you need to ask her out.

You will never be able to tell what's in someone's mind so don't even try; for all you know she may be going out with this dude purely for practical reasons and not because she particularly likes him (plenty of women do do this)

If you're concerned about embarrassment/humiliation, put out some feelers, get to know her a bit better and read the body language. You'll soon know if you're in with a chance or not. Good luck

Yeah, there could be this, he has a car and I don't but she lives a way away from college more so than me that makes bus journeys in an ordeal, more so than the usual. Even so she talks about him regularly to the girls in class so possibly she is quite hung up on him and less so on me. That makes getting to know her difficult as she seems to just want to talk about her relationship with him to these other girls so much. That makes me wonder if I really would have any chance. So while getting to know her more and/or asking her out sounds easy in reality it's not that easy. At the moment it's a nice casual situation with no pressure so I don't know if I want to risk spoiling that and possibly making a fool of myself.

This is exactly how you are supposed to feel. She's not available, so don't attempt to pursue her. It is disrespectful to knowingly hit on a girl who is already in a relationship. If she didn't want to be with her boyfriend then she wouldn't be dating him.

The girl in question is obviously not single so asking her out would be inappropriate. All this 'mouthing I love you' etc is just a dangerous fantasy in your head.

It could be I was sure she kind of did but it could be 50/50 on that one whether she did or me mistaking it. I'm not really so bothered about whether something is appropriate or not but I don't want a majorly awkward embarrassing situation on my hands as she will likely be in my class for quite sone time going forward, another good year or so. Even a casual kind of friends sort of meet up ask out could hit an embarrassing spot so I really just want to make sure I'm not being too passive by not asking out a girl as she is already dating some other guy so not my fault in not doing so.

Yeah, this is kind of what I figured. It's not like I want to be all wimpy or anything but I think what's the point of hitting on a girl who is already in a relationship as surely that is a no go. If it was a convention that it didn't matter then fine but I assume the convention is more that 'she's with the one she wants to be with by continuing on the relationship'. I know in theory a guy could try to make a move in and she dumps the other guy as a result but I'm an average looking guy, I'm no Brad Pitt. In general I would have thought the ball would be more in her court as a result, either her getting to know me better, her asking me out or her dumping the other guy.

I get the impression she likes me a little though possibly not enough or maybe not in that way idk. I kind of really just want to check that what the situation is in these circumstances. I kind of figure the same as you but there's also that thought in the back of my mind wondering if she is thinking it's up to me so kind of a perculiar situation.

I'm going to go ahead and assume you mistook it as it sounds pretty unlikely.

She isn't single, she is not available, do not ask her out. It's not like there's doubt, she talks about her guy regularly yea? Asking her out would likely be seen as disrespectful (dismissive of her relationship and choices, which you are kind of already doing)

don’t ask her out, she’s taken and it’s incredibly disrespectful to her relationship. she’s not interested.

As a guy I'm not really that bothered about being respectful of her relationship I'm not there to pay homage lol.

As a guy I'm not really that bothered about being respectful of her relationship I'm not there to pay homage lol. I'm more bothered about whether she is waiting for me to ask her and me being too passive. As there's now at least two of you that thinks that convention is that it's a no go/it's down to her then that is really a big relief to me as it's a load of my mind. Often the guy is looked upon to make the move but as you thought and I kind of thought it's really down to her on this account where she is already dating. So thank you both, I'm happy to sit this one out

If you're not respectful of her relationship then you are not respectful of her or her decisions. Girls don't want to date guys that can't respect them. You should try to fix this mindset before dating anyone.

if you were the guy dating her and some other dude asked her out whilst he knew you guys were in a relationship, how would you feel?