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Why are boys always cruel to one another?

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Reply 20

Yawn!

Probably just male banter. Do girls ever banter?

Girls are worse.

Guys can kick the **** out of each other during a game of football while also calling each other every name under the sun. After the game they shake hands and get on with it.

Girls on the other hand will bear a grudge for eternity upon hearing what xyz said about the dress they were wearing at that party.

Reply 23

Guy Secretan

Is this a girl saying this. Men compete with eachother sexually so of course they would be nice to girls bit their fellow man is merely someone to compete with.

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alcohol

so wrong

girls are so bitchy and cruel towards each other. Girls bullying another girl is pretty common

Reply 26

big-bang-theory

Original post by Anonymous

Boys are nice to girls, but horrible to eachother. They get in fights with one another, but never with girls.

That's because people are still socially conditioned to regard it unacceptable to hit a girl. Whereas between guys of similar physical standards it's more acceptable. Not because boys are intrinsically "crueler" than girls.

Original post by Anonymous

And they partake in 'banter' together which is usually stingingly personal.

'Banter' between mates is all made in good humour. It's not really that men are more thick skinned it's that the insults are socially conditioned by gender stereotypes to mean less. Between friends mocking one anothers failings it's nearly always very clear-cut what they might take personally (things we avoid) and what they won't (things we dwell upon). This is most clear-cut in racial banter, it's hugely prevalent in some social circles, non-existent in others. Not because one group actually is racist, but because they know that it's a trivial topic of light humour to members of that group. These boundaries form through trial and error, sometimes leads to sticky situations but to do any lasting damage a person has to be particularly sensitive to begin with.

In any case, the growing prevalence of girls participating in "banter" (hence the numerous jokes about girls having no banter appearing, ironically mostly as banter in of themselves) would seem to suggest that girls are hardly less cruel because they don't do this.

Reply 27

member569366

Girls are more of a passive aggressive, revenge type.

Reply 28

lonelykatana

Original post by ch0llima

Nope. Girls can be even more cruel, they're just better at hiding it.

This. Girls are (mostly) two faced to people they dislike, or even friends.
When they have a problem with eachother it will go on for months, and months.
And there will be constant bitching!

With boys its either get the hell over it right now, or have a fight and then get over it.
Which I think in may ways is better.

If one of my friends says something I dont like, they will be the first to be told about it!

On the note of banter, we know its a joke.
I call my mates all sorts of things and im constantly taking the piss out of them.
But I get it in return... Its part of being friends imho! If you cant laugh at your self...Well you must be a bit of a ****! :cool:

Reply 29

kaosu_souzousha

We might argue with each other but we usually find a compromise rather than plotting up a revenge which takes to much time for lazy folks like us.

Reply 30

mkb230

It's better to respond physically then to be a bitch and insult someone behind their back. I hate that sort of ****.

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Reply 31

should be revising

What girls may interpret as a 'personal attack' is really just a bit of banter between mates, not bitchy back-stabbing.

And if you cannae take the banter, CANTER! :goaway:

Reply 32

Crazy Paving

It's all just banter, m8. Don't take it so seriously.

Reply 33

jsmith167

Girls bitch about one another and sometimes i think it was far worse than the banter that goes on between boys! however boys are more likely to be physical while girls are just going to be bitchy

Reply 34

The_Internet

It's normally banter ie: one of my friends had the flu, and he was complaining that he couldn't walk up more than 2 flights of stairs. I joked that he couldn't walk up 2 flights of stairs any way and that he had the "flu" and not the flu. I've been called stuff before but equally I've called some of my friends stuff but we still laugh and joke when we call each other things

Reply 35

oHellno

Girls are bitches, guys just make it more obvious.

Reply 36

damidude

Original post by HumanNature1992

Pff i love my mandedms :colonhash:

Bros before hos yo! :cool:

But seriously, i'd say girls are more vindictive and calculated.

This is true.

Reply 37

The_Internet

Original post by oHellno

Girls are bitches, guys just make it more obvious.

It seriously is banter, joking etc.. It's not meant to be serious. I wouldn't call it bitching

Reply 38

oHellno

Original post by de_monies

It seriously is banter, joking etc.. It's not meant to be serious. I wouldn't call it bitching

I know, I mean girls usually do it behind one another's backs and the joking element sometimes gets lost. Not really like that with guys.

Reply 39

TheSingingMute

boys might argue but they dont hold grudges, and as I'm guessing your a girl what you think is a boy being cruel may just be some harmless banter.

girls are the spiteful ones, evil to eachother