Is there such a thing as someone for everyone?

I know how you feel

Sadly, and contrary to popular belief, there is not someone for everyone. If you look at it technically, there are more women than men on this planet, which means that there isn't a man for every woman. If that makes sense.

Also, some people stay single for all their lives. There is no guarantee that you will find that "special someone". That doesnt mean you can't, but it's up to you.

Plus there's all those pesky gays screwing up the numbers

Op, it's natural to feel like that sometimes but I doubt many people are attracted to a sad face. Concentrate on making yourself happy, forget all about wanting a boyfriend, ramble on your blog about how you love being single so you can do what you like, don't have to worry about someone else and BAM you'll find someone. It only works if you completely mean it though.
Plus to help your chances along, try internet dating. But I'd only do that when you're in a good mood so you can write happy things about yourself.

In other words, she should just forget her feelings and pretend that she's happy being single?

I doubt that'll work. The human mind is more complex than that, we can't cheat it into believing that we're happy when we're not.

Nevertheless, I admire your positiveness.

Hence why I said concentrate on making herself happy, and that the mindset only works if you completely believe it.

However a little fake it til you make it probably wouldn't hurt either. There's a difference between forgetting your feelings and sitting around dwelling about how lonely and single you are. If you stop labelling yourself like that, you'll start (it's a process) to become happier.

theres far more than one person out there for everyone.
if there was only one, we'd have to spend every second of our life meeting billions of people trying to find the one.

theres plenty of people out there you could happily be with / spend your life with.

I don't know why there SHOULD be someone for everyone... we're not made with someone else in mind, and I'm sure for some people, there isn't anyone. It's just quite lucky that most people eventually find someone suitable, even if they're not made for each other. As long as you're not holding prospective partners up to some hideous list of criteria, you should be alright eventually.

I'm not necessarily saying that somewhere in the world there is one specific person, more that at some point, some day you will meet someone and they become that someone. But yeah, there are billions of possibilities. I'm just doubting that any of the possibilities will ever become a someone. I have every reason to be happy really, family life for once is going well, I'm in my final year of uni and looks like I'll get a high 2:1 possibly a first, my friends are great, grad prospects looking good, and I am happy with all that. But I look around me and my friends are starting to settle down, move in together, get married, have kids and I'm just left wondering if I'm ever going to have that. I really do always like the wrong people, and the wrong people like me, have to wonder if things will ever go right. Starting to really wonder.

why ??


if you took a random sample from the people i know, of 20 girls, i reckon i could have a happy long term relationship with at least one of them.

they probably wouldn't be who i get married to, but its just silly to say that theres only one person out there for each of us. theres obviously loads of people we could easily be with.

Getting married and having kids isn't the be-all, really. Be thankful that you'll at least have a good degree and a good future career before getting married, whereas all your friends will become housewives.

I would'nt be so sure about that. I've met more than a handful of guys, and I don't see myself being capable of having a long term relationship with any of them.

I get what you're saying, and I agree, it's not the be all and end all. And I'm not saying I want it right now, but it is something that I want. I can't imagine never having that, maybe it's coming from such a big family, I can't imagine not having a family of my own. Part of me feels pathetic saying it, I'm 23 for Christ sake, it's not like I've got my biological clock ticking away just yet! I really am thankful for my education, and I kind of said at the beginning of uni that uni had to be my focus, but I guess now I'm wondering if that's all there'll ever be.