Anon as he may be on here.
I've been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 2 months now after knowing him for around 5. When I met him, there after we'd speak pretty much everyday and have really long conversations on the phone regularly lasting hours. After we'd been going out for a month and things have changed. We're in a long distance relationship btw, and we're both in our last years of college.
- We don't talk as much and now it's difficult for me personally to hold down a conversation with him when we do, because it's as if I've forgotten what binds us and how we get on. I don't know what to say anymore. The conversations are short (20 minutes) because we're both strapped for cash at the minute and can't afford it.
- I feel distant from his because of this, and have lost sight of the reasons why I appreciate him.
- I feel less inclined to tell him I love him (not IN love, just love)
- I've forgotten how to be with him. As in, last time I visited him I just found it tough to discern how to be with him.
- We're really different people and I'm beginning to find that because there are sides of me I don't show him, the relationship isn't as fulfilling as it used to be when it was new and fresh. I'm not if this is because of money and the distance though that I've forgotten whether that's relevant.
- He's been irritating me lately. When I'm upset I don't tell him and it feels as though he encourages me not to with the little things he says. So I keep it to myself. I've also been keeping all of this to myself. When we're talking I bring some of the things up that are bothering me and he never really gives it attention as (and I know this) he doesn't pick up that it's relevant, quickly changing the subject to him, which makes me irritated. It annoys me, I help him out and give his problems masses of attention, why can't he do the same for me?
- I'm not sure if I want to have sex with him anymore.
I care for this guy incredibly, incredibly much. I care about his welfare and if he's happy, and I want this relationship to work because it used to be so, so good. He'd be devastated if we broke up. Can people give me advice? Thanks