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If your partner had a one night stand, would you dump them or forgive them?

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If I knew they had a one night stand, I'd dump them immediately. No chance for forgiveness. If you forgive someone after such a serious slight against your relationship, they essentially own you. They own you in the sense that even the most heinous acts of infidelity will be forgiven, and in their mind (since they had the stones to cheat in the first place), will easily think they can escape justice once more.

I'd actually get my revenge first, though that's another story and another thread. :wink:

EDIT: To the people who are spouting twaddle like 'Only if they had a really good reason'; are you ****ing insane? What reason could you possibly have for cheating all the way with someone? Keep in mind we presumably have empirical and/or eyewitness evidence that it happened in the first place. Cheating doesn't happen accidentally. You actively choose to hurt your significant other, whether that be a minor sexual act, or a full on romp between the sheets.

(edited 13 years ago)

Reply 41

michaelhjames

Dumped!! If you let someone of once you might as well give them a pass to do it again and again! :P

Reply 42

Oranges

[QUOTE='[Shadowplay];30556649']I'd dump.

Same.

Reply 43

gobananas

Original post by Boo!xx

dump, unless he had a really good reason

And what would be a really good reason??

Reply 44

Iorek

Original post by gobananas

And what would be a really good reason??

THIS.... I'd really like to know what is a really good reason for infidelity.

Reply 45

Elf.

I dumped. D:

One night stand with his friend. Now that hurts...

I need to stop emailing back :handface:

Reply 46

Boo!xx

Original post by gobananas

And what would be a really good reason??

I dunno, if say he got pressured into it for like work or something, and I knew that he would never ever do it again.. hell its a far out shot, but it could happen

Reply 47

silverbolt

Original post by Ethereal

Why is a ONS different to continued cheating?

a ONS is a single one off event that involves more sex than anything else,

an affair on the other hand is seen as a double betrayal, your not just sleeping with them but you have emotional feelings for them as well.

And i would dump, because id never be able to trust them again

Reply 48

dungeonkeepr

I want to say I'd try and talk through it. And, as it's long distance, it might be possible to really really slowly build back up what we had before hand. Honestly, though, even though I trust him 100% atm, I still get paranoid he'll find someone better and closer to him - so having some evidence that he had would be the end. :frown:

This is a cheery topic for the morning :tongue:

I feel sad now, so I shall post smileys :smile:

Reply 49

mother_eve3088

Dump.

No second chances!

Reply 50

Oh I Really Don't Care

dump.

Reply 51

insoms

Leave her in a second.

Shows she can't be trusted

Reply 52

aeterno

I won't be able to trust nor respect him after that so he can jog on. It'll take A LOT of effort to try and even get me to reconsider and even then it's very unlikely I'll take him back.

Reply 53

Dude Where's My Username

Desperadoes and doormats say yes. Those sorts of people deserve to be cheated on. I myself have self respect and know myself worth, so would always dump, with no second chances

Reply 54

*Dreaming*

Dump, if they do it once they'll probably do it again.

Reply 55

freakingout!

Original post by Boo!xx

I dunno, if say he got pressured into it for like work or something, and I knew that he would never ever do it again.. hell its a far out shot, but it could happen

LOL me and the lads have names for girlfirneds like you...

you're called doormats

Anyone that forgives their partner for cheating, deserves to be cheated on tbh.

*awaits neg rep from girls with low self esteem and abusive partners*