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I'm an awful person.

I have a boyfriend. We have sex and everything, but he doesn't ever make me feel wanted/attractive anymore. Like there's no nice words before sex, no compliments ever (not just during sexy time) , nothing loving about anything when we do it.....he doesn't even try to get me off anymore. Basically, he would nowadays rather watch porn than have sex with me.

i have talked to a guy for about 2 years online, and most of our talk is sexual. I know this is bad but I still do it. I like it when he says how much he wants to **** me (pathetic I know), and makes me feel like someone actually wants me sexually. Is this practically cheating? Do I deserve to go to hell?

Reply 1

EmmaJayne.x

Depends if you reciprocate. If you do, then it could be classed as emotional cheating, which is obviously different than the usual physical act.

It sounds like you need to talk to your boyfriend about how you feel, because from my perspective, the relationship sounds very one-sided.

EDIT: Just to clarify, I'm not condoning what you're doing or any aspect of cheating.

(edited 13 years ago)

Reply 2

AndroidLight

You horrible weapon of a human. I am lost for words.

Reply 3

salty_candy

Me too (bad person, not internet sexing)

Reply 4

losingtouch.

why don't you do something about the situation with your boyfriend if you're unhappy? talk to him and tell him. then if you can't fix things maybe it's time to move on.

and no you're not a terrible person for talking to some guy online. might not be the best idea though, i know a lot of people would consider that emotionally cheating.

Reply 5

CapnHooch

So you've been talking to another guy about him ****ing you?
You are quite the catch!

Reply 6

Straight up G

Wanna start talking to me as well? I think you're a brilliant person!

Seriously, every situation is different, only you know if what you think you're doing is wrong imo. I'd leave your boyfriend regardless

Reply 7

Grund

Even if you want to talk to this person in that way or feel like it's something you want to do, then you probably shouldn't be with your partner.

Although, that's the last resort after trying to sort it out. Talk about it, and if nothing changes, even if you both have to make sacrafices, then he's not the guy for you.

Reply 8

adoringcarmine

youve not done anything that bad so your not an awful person - people on here need to calm down a bit. you should definately tell your boyfriend though - no necesseraly about the other guy but about the way you feel and if this doesn'd help at all end it :smile:

Reply 9

Jellybean91

Youre not an awful person so stop telling yourself that but you might want to end your relationship because it sounds to me like its making you miserable! If you'd rather talk to someone else about sex and the most intimate things then your boyfriend isn't the one for you!

Reply 10

Refrigerator

if your relationship with your boyfriend has stagnated, improve it or end it

getting relief by sexting/cybering with random guys isn't the way to go about it, and probably does lower your morality tenfold

Reply 11

Anonymous #2

It is the emotion behind cheating that hurts more then anything, I was cheated on when she kissed guy in a club when she was drunk. It hurt. But when I found out she had been txting him, chatting & flirting with him behind my back whilst I was finishing off University it hurt far far more for me..

You need to stop it, or leave your bf. Talk to him, but you can't keep going on like this. It does make you a bad person, sorry :frown: