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Same here Becca. Another point is that I don't think if you went to the same uni it would work out as well (though I'm sure that it has in some cases), as you'd prevent each other from being as independent and socialising as much, and it could also interfere with any work you have to do. It's good to have your own space. If you get lonely focus on friends and communication with your gf. And look forward to seeing her again, as it will be amazing and you'll appreciate each other a lot more from being apart!
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(Original post by *kiki*)
Same here Becca. Another point is that I don't think if you went to the same uni it would work out as well (though I'm sure that it has in some cases), as you'd prevent each other from being as independent and socialising as much, and it could also interfere with any work you have to do. It's good to have your own space. If you get lonely focus on friends and communication with your gf. And look forward to seeing her again, as it will be amazing and you'll appreciate each other a lot more from being apart!
Definitely.
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but it is never going to work if he thinks it is ok to get drunk and in a moment of desperation, go sleep with someone else... and if he doesn't trust his gf to do not do that either, then what is the point?!
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Erm... I'd say don't even go there. If you guys are meant to be together, you'll get back with each other once you've had a little experience of life and love etc. If you try to stay together now it'll only end in tears at some point, I swear. So not worth breaking someone's heart.
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its just we are always together and in a moment of drunken desperation, i might try to fill that gap
Like Pumpkin said have some self control man,
If you think drinking might get you that far then just dont drink as much,
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My future housemate's boyfriend lives in Canada and they've made it work for over a year so far.
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200 miles is not that bad! it's still long distance but as others said u will have the holidays together. My idea: instead of drinking and sleeping with other girls, save the drinking money and get a plane/train ticket to see her in the middle of the term for a long weekend/reading week u shouldnt worry about if it's going to last. u should worry about how much u will miss her/him and the ways to feel the void of her absence
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I guess it is a tester. Those strong relationships do survive. If it wasn't meant to be, distance will sort it out.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
i go to uni next year and so does my girlfriend and the unis are about 200 miles apart.

has anyone had experience of a long distance relationship and do they really work? we've been together a long time and i love her loads but i'm scared i might have too much to drink and get with someone else when i'm frustrated (sexually) and there is the chance she could too.
I'm in a long distance relationship and my boyfriend and I are about 6000 miles apart in two different countries. We're on for eight months going...
what's really important is that both sides want very much for the relationship to work. and also, my boyfriend and I would never ever dream of cheating on each other so...that's a plus too.
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Mine began long-distance so, with any luck, I shall never have cause to identify with such a dilemma.

Huzzah!
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(Original post by Profesh)
Mine began long-distance so, with any luck, I shall never have cause to identify with such a dilemma.

Huzzah!
Mine too.
I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 14 months and he lives 627 miles away from me - I'm in England, he's in France. It's tough, but it works if you love each other and communicate enough.
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I personally prefer long-distance relationships, mainly because I like foreign girls a lot and also because they're easier to maintain for me. It allows you to deal with the girlfriend and your work/study life, social life separately until you're sure it's serious.

Unfortunately, the girl rarely agrees...

It's also hard to find a girl who can go without having a guy around her/in her bed for more than a couple of weeks...
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(Original post by SamTheMan)
I personally prefer long-distance relationships, mainly because I like foreign girls a lot and also because they're easier to maintain for me. It allows you to deal with the girlfriend and your work/study life, social life separately until you're sure it's serious.

Unfortunately, the girl rarely agrees...

It's also hard to find a girl who can go without having a guy around her/in her bed for more than a couple of weeks...
hahaha I can go without a guy for a long while. I've been single all the way up till eight months ago......
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hahaha I can go without a guy for a long while. I've been single all the way up till eight months ago......
Not all girls can unfortunately. A girl who gets male attention all the time, well it's hard to convince her that having a long-distance relationship is a good idea.
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Not all girls can unfortunately. A girl who gets male attention all the time, well it's hard to convince her that having a long-distance relationship is a good idea.
lol very very true. I make better friends with guys than I do girls though...
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Maybe you're just meeting the wrong girls SamTheMan

To the OP it can work...but if it hasn't even gone long distance yet and you're thinking you might get ratted and sleep with someone else I'd question why you're bothering.
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Maybe you're just meeting the wrong girls SamTheMan
Well you know, you can have the same problem with guys...
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SamTheMan - it's not always about convincing either party you know. Sometimes it's just the way it is. My relationship has always been long-distance, and my boyfriend and I just accept it as the current state of affairs. If either party doesn't want to keep a relationship going just because it's going to be long-distance, chances are that even if they did go long-distance they'd break up anyway, for unrelated reasons. I'm a firm believer that many long-distance relationships end for reasons that are totally unrelated to the distance.
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SamTheMan - it's not always about convincing either party you know. Sometimes it's just the way it is. My relationship has always been long-distance, and my boyfriend and I just accept it as the current state of affairs. If either party doesn't want to keep a relationship going just because it's going to be long-distance, chances are that even if they did go long-distance they'd break up anyway, for unrelated reasons. I'm a firm believer that many long-distance relationships end for reasons that are totally unrelated to the distance.
There's a lot more to it than that. Distance can make a huge distance and people who stay together despite the distance don't always do it because their relationship is so strong and great. It can also be for self-interest.

There's an incredible number of people who just keep a relationship going when going to uni simply in case they can't find anything better when they get there. You see that all the time.

If you're the kind of person who gets attention from the opposite sex continuously then it can be very hard to keep a long-distance relationship going. I believe that can make a world of difference.

I went on a university exchange for a year and out of 20 or so people who claimed to have a boyfriend/girlfriend at the beginning and who had the attention to keep them, maybe 2 or 3 kept them. They were mostly people who didn't socialise that much (one of them basically spending his Friday nights in the computer labs chatting to his girlfriend..) and who didn't get much attention anyway.

What makes a huge difference also is whether the relationship was long-distance in the first place or how long you were together before it became long-distance.
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(Original post by SamTheMan)
Well you know, you can have the same problem with guys...
Indeed, but it only happened to me once out of the few LDRs I've had so I just write that one off as a bad experience....not an indicator of the male race as a whole
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