I love one person and always will

Why don't you ask her out?? The best advice a friend gave me was that more people google "I wish I asked her out" than "I wish I didn't ask her out".

It's scary but even if she says no you don't have to put your life on her - admittedly it takes a long time to get over it. I'm female and asked out a guy for the first time last month and he said no and everyone knew I asked him but I still would have asked him as now I don't think about him so much - only 5-10 a day then every ten minutes.

What do you think? You have to be ready to take the step though and it's up to you. It can be wonderful or devastating but if you don't ask you never know.

I've got no problem asking her, it's finding a place I can chat again, without it being contrived, and when she's alone.

Do you have no mutual friends who could help you out or any excuse so that you would see her? Find out where she goes and try to go there?

Yeah but they don't love you.

Thanks for the input. But you don;t know.

So if she loves you why isn't she with you?

Because they haven't talked about feelings yet. Not everyone tells someone else that they love the other person as soon as they feel that way.

What? By the sounds of it they aren't even together.

Anon cos friends here.

Anyone else feel this way? Other things come and go, but she's there in my mind above all else. I love one person for ever. Don't care about settling down with anyone else.

You said that the person OP likes doesn't like them. You can like someone and not be in a relationship and the person you like doesn't know about it. Obviously they're not going to be in a relationship if they haven't talked about their feelings for each other. I think you have misread either me, the OP or both?!? If I have been giving suggestions of how they can meet up then surely I know that they are not in a relationship already and you've missed my point?

I can explain or try to clarify my point further but I doubt you care and its not really important either :-)

What? By the sounds of it they aren't even together.

Yes, I can attest to feeling this. I might even go so far as to say 'knowing' this. When an interval of months pass and the mind is still dominated by the yearning for that single person...yes. Which of course, is in no way a positive frame of mind; it may be the most dangerous that there is. Having experienced unrequited 'affections' - I could never now call those predecessors 'loves' before, I can also say that requited (or ostensibly requited), yet unfulfilled love is infinitely worse.

And, like you, I find myself utterly disinterested in ever dating or trying to date again, especially aware as I am of possessing a natural unattractiveness.