I'm gay and I really want a partner, but I don't know how to start something.

Hi, I'm 16 and around this time last year, I confirmed to myself that I'm gay. My parents found out then too and because of my religion, life's been very difficult since then. At 1st, I used omegle/snapchat, which in hindsight was very very bad. I even had the police come and speak to me about that to make sure I'm ok. I stopped that in December last year. Then I started using Discord and had a few BF's but it never went well. The reason I resorted to online was because I never had any experience of dating anyone, let alone a gay person. Also, I went to a secondary school where everyone was homophobic (religious boys school) so I didn't have anyone around me to date.
Now, I go to an LGBT youth club and my new 6th form has many gay people but no-one seems interested in dating. I just want to love someone and have someone love me back, and help me discover and love myself, as my anxiety gets in the way of things, especially with self-love. However, I have no clue how to start something and date irl, or any signs I need to look out of etc, and there is no one to date. I'm a very outgoing person and have the courage to talk to anyone. Can anyone help me out please? Thanks!!!

I am also looking for boy freind I am 15 and am gay

what about online dating? It's the easiest way to find someone with similar interests

What site do I use?

Hey there, welcome to the Hopeless Romantic Club!
Love is such a frustrating concept in that it can feel so necessary yet so annoying, especially when you mix in religion and homophobia. Such a wonderful world we live in.
My advice is to not chase love. I've had a huge crush on my best friend for a year, and we spoke about it and he prefers girls. I found (and still, to an extent, find) it difficult to accept that but eventually I realised that it needs to be accepted.
The same is true for all things - maybe think about what reason you're looking for a boyfriend for. If you feel like you need someone else to feel like you're loved, maybe take a look at yourself and see how satisfied you are with yourself. Sometimes we tend to deflect our innermost emotions externally, which, in my case, is simply a reflection of how you feel about yourself internally.
In the words of a wise man, "Sometimes the best way to find something lost, is to stop trying." Stay away from Discord dating, trust me, that won't end well. Overall, I would recommend to stop searching and instead focus your energy on something you can control.

You’re right, it’s hard. But what, I’m just supposed to give up? Expect nothing and you’ll be happy. That’s a loser’s mindset. What about ambition and anything worthwhile won’t come easy? You had one negative experience, now get back up. You’re just daunted. Who knows, you may just find a light around the corner.
You’re right, I can’t completely control how other people will act, but I can’t help wanting them. It’s just nice to think you’re above it all.
People also like to advertise work on yourself, then find a partner. Maybe a partner can help you find yourself. Those surrounded by love live the longest and most fulfilled lives.

I fear you have misinterpreted my statements so I apologise if so, let me clarify:
Love is not an ambition to be fought for. It's not a new car, it's not a new house, it's not a new job. Love is an emotion, and needs to be treated differently. If you find someone who you love, then absolutely go after them. Absolutely spend all that ambition on making them feel special.
But until you find that special person, attempting to "search" for them, noting that they mentioned on Discord and Social Media, will just find someone playing a facade at love. I'm not recommending giving up on finding love; but I am recommending making sure your life isn't dictated by other people.
If you only feel fulfilled with your life when you have a partner, maybe take a step back at reflect upon what makes your life yours. You have experiences that nobody else has experienced, you are living a life that no-one else will live, and that's something to be celebrated. And when the time comes to share it with someone special, then do so, but if the chase for someone else overtakes the chase for your own happiness, then it could be time to step back.
You mentioned a partner helping to find yourself. That's absolutely true. But you can't go searching for a partner if you haven't been searching for yourself. You mention "Those surrounded by love live the longest and most fulfilled lives." That's not necessarily true in the way you've interpreted it. 'Love' can mean many different things, not just romantic relationships. It can mean family, it can mean friends, it can mean anyone who you are happy to be around.
The original author of this thread mentioned they are in a religious boys school. Perhaps the 'love' they are looking for is less of a romantic love, and more of a mutual understanding between himself and the people he is surrounded by.
My main point is that it can feel like having a partner will solve all the unhappiness you feel, but it won't, and there needs to be a discussion into the root causes of this unhappiness.

You're so right for this and your previous message. It took me a while to figure it out but I now wholeheartedly agree. I now have a really good group of friends and I really don't care about having a partner or not. I see people around me get into relationships, get stressed then breakup. It's not a dream and something to aspire to, rather something that will come naturally to you when the time is right. Ngl, I quite enjoy being single right now, and I'm so glad I've been able to embrace that. With that, I'm gonna try to delete this discussion 🙂