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young guys and older girls?

supernova2

its a well known fact that girls dont like boys, girls like cars and money.

Thats why they dont go for the younger ones.

Ah, the wisdom of Good Charlotte.

So you base all your life decisions on the advice of crappy American pop punk bands?

Anonymous

I have a friend, who sorta got involed with this guy who was only afew months junior than her and she felt slightly uncomfortable with it, but then i guess she just sees this kind of traditional idea of a couple thing important. DOes that make sense?

My boyfriend is 15 days younger than me though...you know, I feel sort of uncomfortable with it. Does that sound ridiculous? Yes.

Reply 21

blondie_

3

i would date someone a year younger that me 17 as im 18 but not any younger and i prob go out with someone up to the age of 22/23. not really any older eugh i think its werid say an 18yr old girl with an40 yr old male

Reply 22

Renza

11

Hmm... I think you should be asking this from the girl's perspective. Some girls don't like to date younger guys whilst some girls do. I think this is more applicable when they are both young. I'm almost 18 and could not imagine dating a guy any more than a few months younger than me - However, this is probably based on the immaturity factor. My boyfriends have either been older or had a few months age gap.
Although my friend goes out with a guy one year younger and they go so perfectly together.

Reply 23

Amnesia

2

Renza

I'm almost 18 and could not imagine dating a guy any more than a few months younger than me - However, this is probably based on the immaturity factor. .

This business about immaturity is just an excuse. If it is down to immaturity why do women still prefer to date older guys when they are in their 20s and even 30s? It is a lot more to do with the gender stereotypical attitudes than maturity. I don't think that most 18 year old men are any less mature than 18 year old women from my experience- it is just a myth spread around mainly by women. You and some of the others in this thread are just using that as an excuse, the real reason you won't date younger men is that you you don't want to be different from the norm.

Reply 24

Segat1

16

You can't beat enthusiasm at that age. :rolleyes:

Reply 25

Helenia

20

Anonymous

The thing is i think most girls DO kind of mind this younger boys thing, even if they know it does not really matter but subconciously they might feel a little uncomfortable about it. However as you get older I think this issue becomes less important. I personally would feel slightly uncomfortable going out with a younger guy, though if i REALLY liked him i would still go for it.i guess its because i like the idea of having an older guy (not TOO old though!) to look after me. I have a friend, who sorta got involed with this guy who was only afew months junior than her and she felt slightly uncomfortable with it, but then i guess she just sees this kind of traditional idea of a couple thing important. DOes that make sense?

It depends on how old you are, I think. Sure, when I was 18 or so, I wouldn't have looked at a guy even one year below me at school, they just didn't interest me. But now I'm at uni, it matters much less, and it's not uncommon for girls to go out with younger men, myself included. There is sometimes a noticeable maturity difference but it's not serious and it's only occasional. The amount of time I spent single meant that I'm not that bothered about "being looked after" because I know I can do it all for myself anyway. If you want to be paid for, driven places and treated like you might break, then older men might be the way forward, but if you want to be treated as an equal, it really doesn't matter.

My mum is 4 years older than my dad, and they've been married 23 years or so, so obviously it's not that bad an issue!

Reply 26

Austin226

if you both like each other and get on well together im sure it will be great. dont take any notice of what other people think, make your own decision based on how you and your bf feel not on what other peoples subjective view is - an most of all be happy :biggrin:

Reply 27

Dramatic Star

2

Personally I wouldn't. I prefer older boys but that is just my preference. It's how you feel with it.... if your comfortable, go for it!

Reply 28

Angelharpist

13

My bf is younger than me by 13 months, but in all honesty it really doesn't affect the relationship at all. In fact, this is the healthiest relationship I've had in a long time!

Reply 29

apricot

OP

10

well we met from the net and i just assumed he was 18 and he assumed that i was 17

Reply 30

grace

15

most girls in the 17-20 year old bracket probably don't like the idea of a younger guy because we're still so young ourselves; when i think 'younger guy' i instantly think scrawny 16-year old who spends his days looking at porn and playing computer games.

but when i'm 30 and think 'younger guy' i'm sure i'll have no problems with a 22 year old hot toy boy :smile:

. it's all relative really

Reply 31

apricot

OP

10

he's so mature for his age! its unbelievable!!!! i think i love him lol

Reply 32

annagruber

my boyfriends three years younger than me which breaks a whole range of taboos but whatever, we're happy and it works for us

Reply 33

Singh_87

15

Does that mean your boyfriend is 14/15? Im assuming you're applying to uni at normal age? Thats cool if you're happy though, you would be an inspiration to alot of us guys who like older girls! :p:

Reply 34

annagruber

yeah hes fifteen. it took a lot of decision making to actually go out with him, but for both of us it was definately worth it

Reply 35

apricot

OP

10

that makes me feel a little better bout goin out with a guy who is only a yr younger thn me lol

Reply 36

Barny

17

My girlfriends 18 months older than me and we can't even notice the difference :smile:

Reply 37

Lush Law

15

not that this is like relevant but whatever, I've been with guys who have been like 22 and the oldest 24 and it's never been a problem. I love it!

Reply 38

stoney

12

personally i wouldnt go out with a younger girl, tbh i find most of them less mature also at 18 much younger is criminal offence teritory. I agree with some of the arguements here tho and think that as we grow older age becomes less of an issue but for now something about this debate makes be thing that we'd be better just sticking to our own flocks i.e. guys not going for younger/older girls/girls not going for older guys all the time. I have to agree with one of the posts earlier in that i thinkthe maturity factor has been over played in areas such as this and that boys and girls really arent that different in terms of maturity (perhaps this is further support for the idea of sticking to ones own flock).

Reply 39

Girlie

1

I don't think it should be an issue. A year is nothing really... If the two people in the relationship don't have a problem with it, I don't see why anyone else should.

Personally, I don't think I could date anyone younger than me- other than a few months. I'm too used to my boyfriends being older (my last one was 27, I'm 18)... But relationships where the girl is older can and do work- my mum's 7 years older than my dad! It's neverrrrrrr been an issue- 25 years of marriage too!

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