How much do your parents expect you to pay?

IMO if you live at home past 18, you should pay rent. Especially if your parents struggle financially.

If I was living at home, I'd prolly be paying 35 pound a week if my mother would accept it, as that's what I pay my boyfriend's grandfather now. Your situation is sad, trying to live on a 6 hr a week wage whilst your mum is unemployed and wants help causes a lot of friction Hopefully there'll be a change somewhere soon.

What if you're in my situation and you give what you can afford due to being an unemployed graduate (you can't be that ignorant to the unemployment crisis facing grads atm) in a crap area. You're trying hard as hell to get a job, but the only thing you get from your family is even more **** and your family telling you how useless you are?

If I could pay enough rent I would. I'm nearly to the max of my overdraft and i have my own debts to pay also which my family don't seem to give a toss about.


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The whole, 'kids should be looking after their parents' culture pisses me off also. My mum always gives me the excuse that 'i took care of you my whole life. You should be giving me everything'


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Well obviously you can't pay any more than is actually possible from your income. But if I am still living at home after I graduate, I will pay up to £250 a month, and contribute to cooking and cleaning. If I'm not working, my parents would expect me to be looking for a job, to not have a say in shopping or other ways that money is spent, and probably to contribute half of my JSA if I claimed it.

She makes it sound like it was your fault she had you
Parents shouldn't expect their children to become adults and suddenly be able to support them when they should be enjoying their youth. I helped my mother with mortgage costs when I was working fulltime when I was 18ish but she was mortified at having to take it. She is however hoping I'll get a well paid job so she can go into a nice home in 40 years

My mum was a single mother. I was raised in poverty and in a council estate. It feels like a struggle to rise up and just live like the other half do. The other half who don't have to struggle to afford bus fares and dodge train fares. I'm hoping my studies will open up new opportunities for me.


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I've graduated, starting my masters this April (got my course paid for to study, but unfortunately not my living costs) and i'm unfortunately having to live at home while trying to support myself on a 6-hour a week job. I feel as though I have to carry the huge burden of my mum being unemployed. I don't feel as though she does much to help herself and the whole situation makes me want to hit my head on a wall. It's like she doesn't even try anymore and expect us to support her.

I'm sick of my mum always demanding money and in general always making comments about why i'm studying when I have no money and always making me feel like a loser. Always more or less trying to say I am wasting my time and should get a job instead. Yeah... if things were that easy. My brother then steps in and tries to intimidate me into giving money more, making me feel like a freeloader. There's no negotiation that can never be done.

It makes me realise that love doesn't exist from anyone. Love costs money. I feel as though my mum only loves me and apprecates me when i have money.

Am i the only one who gets so much pressure to pay up cash to their own family?




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She makes it sound like it was your fault she had you
Parents shouldn't expect their children to become adults and suddenly be able to support them when they should be enjoying their youth. I helped my mother with mortgage costs when I was working fulltime when I was 18ish but she was mortified at having to take it. She is however hoping I'll get a well paid job so she can go into a nice home in 40 years

The whole, 'kids should be looking after their parents' culture pisses me off also. My mum always gives me the excuse that 'i took care of you my whole life. You should be giving me everything'


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Its not in our culture to pay but I voluntarily pay some bills and buy/cook food for the whole house because I want to.

A friend recently told me about how his mum took most of his student loan to do up their house...I don't know how to feel about that.

My mum wanted my whole student finance so I move out. I feel for you OP.

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