Okay I have 3 friends who live near me. I was the last to have my birthday but the first to pass their test. One of my friends was learning to drive but gave up as he didn't like it after 10 hours. The other two were still learning.
When I first passed I offered them lifts into college most days. This I didn't mind. However, after a month or 2 I started picking up on how much a car actually costs to run.
I started getting a bit bothered as in the morning, instead of texting me to ask me if I was going in or not they would simply text "can I get a lift?" I would say yes most days and they would come round and I would drive them to college. Then they would also get a lift home if they left college when I did.
One of them passed his test and got a car. I started asking if he wanted to take turns for lifts and he kept saying his car was broken. One morning he asked for a lift, I said okay and then when he got in the car I asked him when his car will be fixed and he said it had been for a while. This bugged me.
So now, after a few months. One guy hasn't passed his test and fails to start learning again. The one who passed and had a broken car never goes into college anymore, and the other guy has passed his test but hardly ever drives and his parents use the car.
So I'm still driving in these 2 people. They seem to expect the lifts. I started getting annoyed that they got the same privilege as me, getting to college much quicker and didn't have to pay for anything. All together, the car was 1000, insurance 1300 and 100 p/month for fuel on a part time job. I joke about it, asking them for petrol money and they just laughed it off.
After a while I was getting really bugged though. Constantly getting the texts in the morning. I said to them seriously, that, I pay a lot to maintain and keep the car going. So far they hadn't had to pay anything ,yet even though they lived close to me and went to the same place, I was bugged as I had to pay for something they were getting for free. At the same time I was driving so it's like they're even more better off. The kid who stopped learning did so because I made it to easy for him (I believe). They were even late to my house sometimes, making me late.
My question is am I bad for feeling this way? Their excuse every time is "well you're driving that way anyway so It doesn't cost you any extra". I keep telling them to put themselves in my shoes and explaining to them what I've said above. I feel really bad every time they bring it up as it makes me sound like a prick. They get a lift to college and back to their front door every day and laugh when I get annoyed at them for scratching the paintwork with their bags or swinging the door out fast when there's a raised kerb that it could hit.
I don't expect them to pay much but im paying, 1300 for insurance, 1000 for the car, 140 for tax and at least 100 for MOT. I pay for ALL of this on my part time job at Weekends. The fuel is around £100 a month.
Sorry about any grammatical errors, I typed this on my phone. If it doesn't make sense at any point, please point it out.
Tl;dr My friends get lifts to college every day from me and have never given anything back.