He doesn't make an effort... break up?
I've been officially with this guy for 4 months but we were seeing each other a few months prior to this. Since easter he has been very distant with me and I don't know why.
He never initiates anything. If I don't contact him, there is no contact. If I don't suggest going out somewhere, we won't go out.
Often I find that he takes days to reply to a text/fb message, and thats if he replies at all! Also I can see that he's been on facebook and playing games so its not like he was really busy. When he does reply, the conversation is short, or half way through he will just disappear. Its not like I'm being clingy either, I text maybe 2 or 3 times a week, and lucky to get a reply once a week. Also I am lucky to see him once a week.
I asked him straight what was wrong, and if he's still interested. He apologised, said he definitely was, then spoke to me the rest of the night. But then after that it was like we hadn't had the conversation at all!
What should I do? Am I being clingy and expecting too much?
Its starting to get to me now
He never initiates anything. If I don't contact him, there is no contact. If I don't suggest going out somewhere, we won't go out.
Often I find that he takes days to reply to a text/fb message, and thats if he replies at all! Also I can see that he's been on facebook and playing games so its not like he was really busy. When he does reply, the conversation is short, or half way through he will just disappear. Its not like I'm being clingy either, I text maybe 2 or 3 times a week, and lucky to get a reply once a week. Also I am lucky to see him once a week.
I asked him straight what was wrong, and if he's still interested. He apologised, said he definitely was, then spoke to me the rest of the night. But then after that it was like we hadn't had the conversation at all!
What should I do? Am I being clingy and expecting too much?
Its starting to get to me now
Doesn't sound like a relationship at all to me.
Original post by Anonymous
I've been officially with this guy for 4 months but we were seeing each other a few months prior to this. Since easter he has been very distant with me and I don't know why.
He never initiates anything. If I don't contact him, there is no contact. If I don't suggest going out somewhere, we won't go out.
Often I find that he takes days to reply to a text/fb message, and thats if he replies at all! Also I can see that he's been on facebook and playing games so its not like he was really busy. When he does reply, the conversation is short, or half way through he will just disappear. Its not like I'm being clingy either, I text maybe 2 or 3 times a week, and lucky to get a reply once a week. Also I am lucky to see him once a week.
I asked him straight what was wrong, and if he's still interested. He apologised, said he definitely was, then spoke to me the rest of the night. But then after that it was like we hadn't had the conversation at all!
What should I do? Am I being clingy and expecting too much?
Its starting to get to me now
He never initiates anything. If I don't contact him, there is no contact. If I don't suggest going out somewhere, we won't go out.
Often I find that he takes days to reply to a text/fb message, and thats if he replies at all! Also I can see that he's been on facebook and playing games so its not like he was really busy. When he does reply, the conversation is short, or half way through he will just disappear. Its not like I'm being clingy either, I text maybe 2 or 3 times a week, and lucky to get a reply once a week. Also I am lucky to see him once a week.
I asked him straight what was wrong, and if he's still interested. He apologised, said he definitely was, then spoke to me the rest of the night. But then after that it was like we hadn't had the conversation at all!
What should I do? Am I being clingy and expecting too much?
Its starting to get to me now
Of course you're not, any normal person in a relationship would want to talk to and see their partner. As the person above said, it doesn't really sound like a relationship!
You said you've already addressed the issue. I think if I were you, I'd maybe bring it up again and see if it changes, but really, if he's putting in zero effort he's not worth it in my opinion
I get the impression OP wrote this; http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=2718768&highlight=she%27s+distant; Fellow TSRians, we've been trolled.
Original post by gagaslilmonsteruk
I get the impression OP wrote this; http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=2718768&highlight=she%27s+distant; Fellow TSRians, we've been trolled.
That certainly has nothing to do with me...
Original post by Anonymous
I've been officially with this guy for 4 months but we were seeing each other a few months prior to this. Since easter he has been very distant with me and I don't know why.
He never initiates anything. If I don't contact him, there is no contact. If I don't suggest going out somewhere, we won't go out.
Often I find that he takes days to reply to a text/fb message, and thats if he replies at all! Also I can see that he's been on facebook and playing games so its not like he was really busy. When he does reply, the conversation is short, or half way through he will just disappear. Its not like I'm being clingy either, I text maybe 2 or 3 times a week, and lucky to get a reply once a week. Also I am lucky to see him once a week.
I asked him straight what was wrong, and if he's still interested. He apologised, said he definitely was, then spoke to me the rest of the night. But then after that it was like we hadn't had the conversation at all!
What should I do? Am I being clingy and expecting too much?
Its starting to get to me now
He never initiates anything. If I don't contact him, there is no contact. If I don't suggest going out somewhere, we won't go out.
Often I find that he takes days to reply to a text/fb message, and thats if he replies at all! Also I can see that he's been on facebook and playing games so its not like he was really busy. When he does reply, the conversation is short, or half way through he will just disappear. Its not like I'm being clingy either, I text maybe 2 or 3 times a week, and lucky to get a reply once a week. Also I am lucky to see him once a week.
I asked him straight what was wrong, and if he's still interested. He apologised, said he definitely was, then spoke to me the rest of the night. But then after that it was like we hadn't had the conversation at all!
What should I do? Am I being clingy and expecting too much?
Its starting to get to me now
You and him have very little to no verbal communication at all... I think that your relationship ended when he became distant.
Of course you're not, any normal person in a relationship would want to talk to and see their partner. As the person above said, it doesn't really sound like a relationship!
You said you've already addressed the issue. I think if I were you, I'd maybe bring it up again and see if it changes, but really, if he's putting in zero effort he's not worth it in my opinion
Thank you guys, I'm glad people agree with me. Makes me feel a lot better about feeling this way about it all! I think I'll bring it up with him again, and see if anything changes. I really hope we can work this out because when we do see each other, we have a lot of fun.
You said you've already addressed the issue. I think if I were you, I'd maybe bring it up again and see if it changes, but really, if he's putting in zero effort he's not worth it in my opinion
Original post by Mockery
I'm not one for constant communication but even I know that what he's giving you isn't acceptable or enough.
Even if you were clingy, which it doesn't sound like, it's irrelevent as you being happy in the relationship is of most importance.
Even if you were clingy, which it doesn't sound like, it's irrelevent as you being happy in the relationship is of most importance.
Thank you guys, I'm glad people agree with me. Makes me feel a lot better about feeling this way about it all! I think I'll bring it up with him again, and see if anything changes. I really hope we can work this out because when we do see each other, we have a lot of fun.
Original post by gagaslilmonsteruk
I get the impression OP wrote this; http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=2718768&highlight=she%27s+distant; Fellow TSRians, we've been trolled.
I think if this was a troll it would be a little more entertaining why would he/she troll like this?
Original post by cdude
I think if this was a troll it would be a little more entertaining why would he/she troll like this?
They just seem fairly similar to me, that's all
efforts long just suck his dick and be happy
Maybe he just wants some privacy on Facebook? He does't have to be offline but still online (and hidden) simply because otherwise he would have to hang out with you! 
My ex was like that and when I would text he would ignore it, we broke up about 2 months ago, he moved onto someone else within two weeks. If I were you I'd speak to him, tell him you don't spend enough time together or communicate properly, relationships need both of these to work.
Break up. He's not worth your time and effort. Your future self will be glad if you do it, trust me
Like you say, it seems that he's not making any effort or giving any good reason why he's being distant. You should talk to him about it to get some closure on the issue. Hope you work things out 
Quick Reply
Related discussions
- Holiday booked but not happy in relationship
- Bf is always late when we meet
- How to get him to commit?
- Being a woman over 40
- Fed up of my bf
- Boyfriend checks my following list on instagram
- Should I try long distance at 17?
- Should i breakup
- Why does he act this way?
- Do i break up with my boyfriend or wait?
- Is it time to go on a break or end it...
- I think he has decided to stop talking to me. I am in unimaginable. What do I do?
- Walking on eggshells at home
- I feel broken as my relationship is ending
- Is there a possibility that my bf is cheating?
- 5 harsh facts of long distance relationship
- Break up with him after 5 hours?
- Relationship advice
- I am a failure in life
- How do I leave him?
Latest
Trending
Last reply 5 days ago
My friend might be getting extra time and i hate it.Last reply 5 days ago
Just found out about UCL stat test but can't afford to sit itLast reply 2 weeks ago
Dad keeps criticising my university degree choiceLast reply 2 weeks ago
Is this pathetic or genuinely something to be upset aboutTrending
Last reply 5 days ago
My friend might be getting extra time and i hate it.Last reply 5 days ago
Just found out about UCL stat test but can't afford to sit itLast reply 2 weeks ago
Dad keeps criticising my university degree choiceLast reply 2 weeks ago
Is this pathetic or genuinely something to be upset about
