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Should I get back with my ex we broke up and I have gone no contact it was because of both of our faults and I have now undertoof his reasonings and I've reflected a lot and changed
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Original post by Anonymous
Should I get back with my ex we broke up and I have gone no contact it was because of both of our faults and I have now undertoof his reasonings and I've reflected a lot and changed
There's a lot of questions you should ask yourself. A lot of the time we want to get back with our ex because we miss them, we loved them and we don't like being lonely.. Also he's all you've known for the time you were broken up.
But would it practical? Would the issues from before still persist? Would that work long-term? Are you just delaying another eventual break up, simply because you're lonely? Did you really want to change, has it benefited you, or did you only do it for him? Do you think you can maintain how much you've changed? Would you ever resent him for making you change?
Original post by Anonymous
Should I get back with my ex we broke up and I have gone no contact it was because of both of our faults and I have now undertoof his reasonings and I've reflected a lot and changed
Nah don't bother
No but what I'm saying is I want to
Original post by Your nana
There's a lot of questions you should ask yourself. A lot of the time we want to get back with our ex because we miss them, we loved them and we don't like being lonely.. Also he's all you've known for the time you were broken up.
But would it practical? Would the issues from before still persist? Would that work long-term? Are you just delaying another eventual break up, simply because you're lonely? Did you really want to change, has it benefited you, or did you only do it for him? Do you think you can maintain how much you've changed? Would you ever resent him for making you change?
But would it practical? Would the issues from before still persist? Would that work long-term? Are you just delaying another eventual break up, simply because you're lonely? Did you really want to change, has it benefited you, or did you only do it for him? Do you think you can maintain how much you've changed? Would you ever resent him for making you change?
The issues won't persist because it's gonna be different we've had time to heal and grow and mature and I realise my faults and I've changed
It has really benefited me like I had to reflect and put my ego in the bin and what I've realised throughout it all is I still love him
Do you think you can maintain how much you've changed? Yes I am not longer the jealous controlling ***** I once was
Would you ever resent him for making you change? No because whatever happens the change was good for me
Would you ever resent him for making you change? No because whatever happens the change was good for me
I thought I was just lonely but I'm not it's this feeling of like true love like you want to make it work with them u don't hate nor resent them it's a feeling of we love got this I've got your back lean on me
Original post by Anonymous
Should I get back with my ex we broke up and I have gone no contact it was because of both of our faults and I have now undertoof his reasonings and I've reflected a lot and changed
Too late. You should have behaved properly whilst in the relationship, not claim you've changed and now regret it. Anyway, how do you know he has changed and wants to be with you if you're no contact? How do you know you have changed when the issues were when you had a boyfriend and not when you are single?
Original post by Anonymous
Should I get back with my ex we broke up and I have gone no contact it was because of both of our faults and I have now undertoof his reasonings and I've reflected a lot and changed
Maybe if you discuss it with him.
Original post by Surnia
Too late. You should have behaved properly whilst in the relationship, not claim you've changed and now regret it. Anyway, how do you know he has changed and wants to be with you if you're no contact? How do you know you have changed when the issues were when you had a boyfriend and not when you are single?
I don't see any issue with this
Original post by Surnia
Too late. You should have behaved properly whilst in the relationship, not claim you've changed and now regret it. Anyway, how do you know he has changed and wants to be with you if you're no contact? How do you know you have changed when the issues were when you had a boyfriend and not when you are single?
It was unhealthy on both ends he kept hurting me and I didn't communicate and it just went downhill and I didn't actually compromise and neither did he and it was bad overall but this time ik will be different because of time
Original post by Surnia
Too late. You should have behaved properly whilst in the relationship, not claim you've changed and now regret it. Anyway, how do you know he has changed and wants to be with you if you're no contact? How do you know you have changed when the issues were when you had a boyfriend and not when you are single?
Because when I see those same situations arise I know how to handle it now and I don't feel the same way I did before I got it wrong we both did
Original post by tanstaafiq
Maybe if you discuss it with him.
How much time do u leave after an breakup until u talk to them again
Original post by Anonymous
It was unhealthy on both ends he kept hurting me and I didn't communicate and it just went downhill and I didn't actually compromise and neither did he and it was bad overall but this time ik will be different because of time
You haven't answered any questions i asked.
So why do you think it's good to go back to a toxic relationship when time changes nothing, it has to be the people that are proactive?
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Original post by Anonymous
Because when I see those same situations arise I know how to handle it now and I don't feel the same way I did before I got it wrong we both did
Like he was friends with this person who I rly didn't like but now I respect his choice he has autonomy to do as he wishes and I still love him no matter what
Original post by Surnia
You haven't answered any questions i asked.
So why do you think it's good to go back to a toxic relationship when time changes nothing, it has to be the people that are proactive?
So why do you think it's good to go back to a toxic relationship when time changes nothing, it has to be the people that are proactive?
Yes I understand time heals wounds tho it can also help you change ur perspective it really allowed me to realise what happened his PoV what I did wrong and how to make the situation better. Time helped me understand him better and understand me and it allowed me to realise what I truly want in a relationship
Please guys can you help me figure out a way to get him back i whist want to show him that things can be different this time just one last shot please
It's great to hear that you've reflected and grown, however there's nothing to say he's done the same and if the relationship ended because the fault was on both of you - then he may be the same person as he was back then: The person that you broke up with.
Unfortunately I don't think it would work out, because I don't think there are any lingering feelings from his end - especially with the 'no contact' bit you mentioned. This chapter of you and him has ended - it's best to pursue new people rather than dig up a bad past.
I hope you find the best person for you.
Unfortunately I don't think it would work out, because I don't think there are any lingering feelings from his end - especially with the 'no contact' bit you mentioned. This chapter of you and him has ended - it's best to pursue new people rather than dig up a bad past.
I hope you find the best person for you.
I know he has because he seems calmer and even tho we're not together he doesn't do what he used to before and certain things that were bad he has rly reflected and is different now he see have not talked but it avn work I have faith and I believe it can work
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