Anyone else not been in love and/or been loved?

I'm a 22 year old female (nearly 23) who is also still a virgin. I've never truly been in love with anyone before. I've had crushes and certainly liked people a lot, but I've never had a reciprocal relationship.

It's either the person is crazy about me (like my ex) whereas I only have half-hearted feelings about them, or I have crushes on people/celebrities who I know I'll never have a chance with. I worry it's going to be like this forever: people liking me and me not reciprocating, or me liking others and them not reciprocating.

I fear I'm never going to have it where I fall in love with someone and they feel exactly the same way about me. You think about it - I think you'd have to be pretty lucky to have exactly that.

Am I the only one who feels this way?

Many people, yes.

Yup

I've never been in love before :s-smilie:

I understand it's highly over rated in todays media but I do want to be in love sometime in my life with the right person.

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AllyTee

Original post by DANGO.DANGO

I've never been in love before :s-smilie:

I understand it's highly over rated in todays media but I do want to be in love sometime in my life with the right person.

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Reply 5

Who?Knows

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Original post by DANGO.DANGO

I've never been in love before :s-smilie:

I understand it's highly over rated in todays media but I do want to be in love sometime in my life with the right person.

I wouldn't say it's highly overrated at all. People will get beaten up by partners, put down and be cheated on but are not too bruised to get into a relationship again and again. Better to be loved and have someone than not.

Yes.

Idk.. I've liked someone a lot..

Reply 8

LakAnne

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Some people never find love. I just hope, fate will spare me this misery. I would hope the one I'm supposed to love is out their and within my timeline, colliding at some point in the next 12 years. Hehe!

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Dora amos

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Original post by Anonymous

I'm a 22 year old female (nearly 23) who is also still a virgin. I've never truly been in love with anyone before. I've had crushes and certainly liked people a lot, but I've never had a reciprocal relationship.

It's either the person is crazy about me (like my ex) whereas I only have half-hearted feelings about them, or I have crushes on people/celebrities who I know I'll never have a chance with. I worry it's going to be like this forever: people liking me and me not reciprocating, or me liking others and them not reciprocating.

I fear I'm never going to have it where I fall in love with someone and they feel exactly the same way about me. You think about it - I think you'd have to be pretty lucky to have exactly that.

Am I the only one who feels this way?

I met my boyfriend 14 years ago aged 11 and instantly felt chemistry. He was 16 so i never acted on it, he was my brothers friend. Then when i was 17 we got together by a chance meeting in the street i just chatted to him and missed the last bus home (hes probably the only man ive ever trusted) so he let me sleep at his we had shared a kiss earlier in the day, outside of a temple ill remember the orange flags forever. He never tried anything at his house but my tummy was doing summersaults he liked me to. We got together and after 3 months we got intimate i knew i loved him id known him for years and saw hin everyday almost from age 11. We have been together for 8 years and i love him so much and i just feel like im so lucky to have found him so young. Ill never love like this nor did i know love could feel like this and i didnt know i could love so much its so strange to describe, but its the best feeling in the world. We have had massive arguments and almost split up but we love each other so much that giving up is not an option.

The thing is when your looking for love youll never find it, i hear this with my friends all the time stop looking and start living start socialising he is out there and will come to you when the time is right dont jump straight it take it slow. Thats all the advice i can give my boyfriend waited three months and i waited 5 years nearly 6 to get him and i wouldnt change that, im so thankful i bumped into him that day and i know he loves me. To know back then he was attracted to me was amazing but i was very confused i knew i wanted to be with him but i didnt want to have feelings incase i got hurt but when i was with him i couldnt control it i loved him and love him still. Overated yes with the wrong person. Under-rated with the right person. Stop looking for mr right and start looking for mr right now if its meant to be itll be.

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username1039383

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Never been in love but i've been loved several times. I'm a heartbreaker

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Reply 11

tinshed

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Original post by Anonymous

I'm a 22 year old female (nearly 23) who is also still a virgin. I've never truly been in love with anyone before. I've had crushes and certainly liked people a lot, but I've never had a reciprocal relationship.

It's either the person is crazy about me (like my ex) whereas I only have half-hearted feelings about them, or I have crushes on people/celebrities who I know I'll never have a chance with. I worry it's going to be like this forever: people liking me and me not reciprocating, or me liking others and them not reciprocating.

I fear I'm never going to have it where I fall in love with someone and they feel exactly the same way about me. You think about it - I think you'd have to be pretty lucky to have exactly that.

Am I the only one who feels this way?

A friend told me once that people always think that love is a very happy emotion but it's not true. Love is a feeling which is not always a happy one. You don't feel euphoria everyday when you are in love but you do feel security and complete. The whole world could be falling to bits around you but if you are in love with someone you don't notice the rest of the world. It's a dangerous feeling cause your life could be a big mess and you'll never see it that way.

I have had two relationships where I knew I wasn't in love and I thought I was not capable of loving someone, until I met my third bf when I was 21. Again I didn't just wake up and feel all loved up, it came gradually till I started thinking if he leaves me I will not be able to live without him. And indeed when we broke up I though I had gone to hell and back, I can't compare the feeling to anything. But I don't know if he loved me as much I loved him.

So you see you can't make yourself fall for someone but when you do it is just luck if they love you as well. You can love as much as you know how and the older you get the more you learn to love and you can fall more than once.

You will fall in love several times in your lifetime, I am sure of it just be prepared, it's not always a feeling of joy.

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Dora amos

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Original post by tinshed

A friend told me once that people always think that love is a very happy emotion but it's not true. Love is a feeling which is not always a happy one. You don't feel euphoria everyday when you are in love but you do feel security and complete. The whole world could be falling to bits around you but if you are in love with someone you don't notice the rest of the world. It's a dangerous feeling cause your life could be a big mess and you'll never see it that way.

I have had two relationships where I knew I wasn't in love and I thought I was not capable of loving someone, until I met my third bf when I was 21. Again I didn't just wake up and feel all loved up, it came gradually till I started thinking if he leaves me I will not be able to live without him. And indeed when we broke up I though I had gone to hell and back, I can't compare the feeling to anything. But I don't know if he loved me as much I loved him.

So you see you can't make yourself fall for someone but when you do it is just luck if they love you as well. You can love as much as you know how and the older you get the more you learn to love and you can fall more than once.

You will fall in love several times in your lifetime, I am sure of it just be prepared, it's not always a feeling of joy.

You are so right sometimes i am so excited to spend a weekend with hin as we do opposite shift work that i feel all crazy inside. Other times i want to scream at him and sometimes i feel just alright. Its never just happiness its all the emotions in the world that make love, arguing is a thing that happens from passion if you didnt care you wouldnt get upset. Its hard to explain but i know what you mean when you say you feel like you cant live without them i almost lost him years back and i felt depressed i couldnt eat i cried for a week and then he came back and i know i cant ever let that happen again hes my best friend my partner and my world. The funny thing is he was never meant to be anything but a stupid school girl crush i think its pot luck. Dont just look for butterflies to happiness to summersaults just look for a man that makes you smile, he can turn tear and anger into smiles and laughter in 60 seconds noone else can do that. Just have fun love can take a long time to develop and often people give up to quickly its a great shame but yes love is the best and the worst feeling in the world, i wouldnt change the feeling for the world you take the good and bad as it comes. Its not simple

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