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What's the thing you've learnt most from your ex?

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Not exactly an ex but...

Be honest to God 100% crystal clear about what you want, what you are willing to put up with, be absolutely honest at all times.

There is absolutely no point in pursuing a guy who has several other girls on his mind as well. That will only end in disaster.

Reply 41

RowingGoose

I've learnt if there's an issue you think you can ignore/live with/get used to, you can't.

Reply 42

The_Lonely_Goatherd

Original post by joker12345

But, it's sad. Wouldn't you like to find someone you can give 100% of yourself to?

I did find someone like that but tbh I'm not sure it's worth it or that healthy :nah:

Wasn't in my case at least! :nah:

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donutaud15

Original post by trustmeimlying1

Hmm I'm not sure I agree. You need to trust...be sceptical sure but trust. Give the benefit of the doubt but importantly realise and accept the consequences of trusting them. You can't just blame them afterwards..as you chose to trust them.

I just think trusting fully is giving your whole self to them. If a relationship fails, it could lead to a self destructive path since you've got nothing left of yourself to take care of. At least that's what happened to me.

Does that make sense?

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Reply 44

trustmeimlying1

Original post by donutaud15

youve got everything to take care off.I agree balancing your life on someone else is never a good thing but that doesn't mean you can't trust them fully...
When he says he loves you and he wants to be with you forever you realise he can't know for sure but right now that's all his heart is telling him.

I think its dangerous in relationships not to trust others.

Reply 45

Tootles

You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.

Reply 46

Sazzle4

I've learned that no matter how badly you get your heart broken and no matter how much it changes your life that it is possible to pick yourself back up, put your life back together and be the one who gets to hold their head high with strength and dignity. There is always light at the end of the tunnel.

Reply 47

Tiger Rag

To say no and not to say yes because I'm too much of a wimp to say no.

Reply 48

news2me

You can never take back words after they have been spoken...

Reply 49

Tiger Rag

Original post by Arthraxia

My third and most recent ex:
If you don't have ANY common interests, chances are your relationship won't work!

This is the problem I had. The only thing we had in common is running. (we met at a running club) But other than that, I didn't share any of his interests at all.

Reply 50

cosmiccurtains

Don't change the way you feel about yourself to please him.

Don't censor yourself and keep second guessing.

His problems are his own, not yours.

Soup tastes nice (random, I know). It's also easier to spot "fake nice guys", if you know what I mean.

Reply 51

1501

Don't give your everything to someone who isn't willing to meet you halfway.

Reply 52

xoxAngel_Kxox

That "you're the only girl I'll ever love" is either a lie, or that my ex deserves to be an actor in a top film judging by the performance he's pulling off.

Reply 53

joker12345

Original post by xoxAngel_Kxox

That "you're the only girl I'll ever love" is either a lie, or that my ex deserves to be an actor in a top film judging by the performance he's pulling off.

Haha, agreed!

Reply 54

jhumfy

Tbh when I was with my exes I was a lot younger, quite clingy and a bit psycho. I guess they all showed me that side of me and gave me the motivation to pack it in.

Reply 55

BigMelz

Best thing I ever learnt from an ex...
One time don't join them in getting drunk. You'll soon spot the lies and untruths.

Reply 56

Tiger Rag

If you're suspcious about that female he always talks to, who he constantly calls darling, you have good reason to be. Turns out he was with her at the same time as me.