Would You Date A Drug User?

A lot of people are misinformed on drug use, it's quite sad.
Personally I'd prefer to date a drug user, rolling on MDMA with people you love is one of the nicest experiences and really not harmful if you do your research and know how to dose responsibly.

Out of interest, do you do drugs?

If someone doesn't want to date a drug user they won't, I doubt when you tell them exactly plays into that. If you want to clarify that you're not "wasted all the time" you can do that just as well early on.

Holding off telling someone about it for a while on purpose, when you know it might be an issue for a lot of people, is downright manipulative. Not that it'd work very well.

Reality isn't that black and white. Of the people who've said no, would they really dump someone they had strong feelings for because they found out they like to smoke weed once a year? Very unlikely. You should tell people things at the appropriate time, in good context. I would want a girl to get to know me and how I live my life before telling her about any drugs I take, because I wouldn't want her to be influenced by the overwhelmingly negative views society has on drug users. People are willing to be flexible on their existing ideas of who they would date, I know loads of girls who date guys who do things they generally disapprove of.

Well as I say, I've been with her a few years now, so it's gone quite well from my perspective!

I don't think he's being manipulative at all. He wasn't doing any harm by not telling her immediately. If you were anti-drugs and you knew someone who was a drug user, that would completely taint your vision of them before getting to know them. All he's done is waited until they've established a mutual trust and that's fair.

It's up to her what she's influenced by. Really, really not your place to decide that, TBH. You sound extremely manipulative.

As for your girlfriend, she would probably have been with you regardless of if you had told her sooner, going by your previous post. I'm not necessarily suggesting telling someone as soon as you meet them, just being honest, rather than trying to "game" it by luring someone in without telling them, getting them to like you and then dropping it on them all of a sudden. Which is what you sound like you're suggesting. If you think someone might have a misconception about what your drug use means, you can still be upfront and honest with them early on and say "I'm not necessarily out of my mind six days a week, it's just occasional weed" or explain whatever you do exactly. It's their decision to make after that. If they are willing to be flexible they will be flexible regardless. Unless you are trying to manipulate them.

It's like an obese person chatting to someone for ages on a dating site (though their pics don't show they're fat), leading them on, but deliberately leaving off telling the person till they meet in person, knowing full well that a lot of people wouldn't want to date a fat person but hoping that this will improve their chances. Whether you think society's views on fat people are right or wrong, it's not your place to try to manipulate them out of holding those views.

I agree but calling them ugly is kinda ugly dude