Girls - what is a real man?

Reply 20

username931319

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Original post by hellodave5

What about a man who, for just sheer bad genetic luck, was born without testicles?
:frown:

Then he's not a man? Stop ruining my easily expressed, reductionist post. I want rep.

Reply 21

Zarek

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Original post by throwaway99

Perhaps not private enough to be anon, so I made a new account

Recently, with a friend, or who I certainly thought was a friend, said in the middle of an argument (We did like each other at one point ie: like, like, for a bit of context) she randomly said "youre not a real man in my eyes lol." (sic)

That got to me a little bit.What would you call a real man?

You need to play rugby, swear, go like a Stallion in bed with her only emerging periodically to consume a raw steak..

Reply 22

Afghan Warrior

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Someone that isn't a pussy and doesn't hide when in an argument. Enough said.

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Reply 23

Elliemrrz

Hmm... that's a hard one... lemmie think... it's like a...

A human being who identifies as a man. :biggrin:

Reply 24

Anonymous #1

I said something similar to a friend recently, really hope this isn't about me (thus anon for obvious reasons).
How old are you? It could be that you're tad immature maybe, no need to dislike your friend for that tiny reason.

Original post by The Juan

Manly man is someone quite physical, confident, likes a pint, loves the footy, punches back in a fight, likes his cars, enjoys some lads banter, makes the first move, competitive.

These are general stereotypical things that come to my mind to be perfectly honest.

I don't speak for all women, but this is horrifically wrong in my opinion. I think it's more about maturity more than anything. Self-confidence comes to it a lot, but then again, I can imagine any mature man would generally be old enough to have "found himself". I'm talking about ages >25

Reply 25

The Juan

Original post by Anonymous

I said something similar to a friend recently, really hope this isn't about me (thus anon for obvious reasons).
How old are you? It could be that you're tad immature maybe, no need to dislike your friend for that tiny reason.

I don't speak for all women, but this is horrifically wrong in my opinion. I think it's more about maturity more than anything. Self-confidence comes to it a lot, but then again, I can imagine any mature man would generally be old enough to have "found himself". I'm talking about ages >25

Hey I don't support it. I'm just saying as soon as you ask that question these are the first things that come to my mind and it's the general opinion of most people I know. It's the stereotypical version of what men are expected to be.

Reply 26

DErasmus

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Original post by The Juan

Manly man is someone quite physical, confident, likes a pint, loves the footy, punches back in a fight, likes his cars, enjoys some lads banter, makes the first move, competitive.

These are general stereotypical things that come to my mind to be perfectly honest.

If that's what a man is I don't want to be one.

Physical, confident and competitive yeah the rest are just the values of a philistine

Reply 27

Judomandeano

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Original post by DErasmus

If that's what a man is I don't want to be one.

Physical, confident and competitive yeah the rest are just the values of a philistine

BUT that probably is a manly MAN. But could handle me a girly man who would suck his cock all night ?

Reply 28

The Juan

Original post by DErasmus

If that's what a man is I don't want to be one.

Physical, confident and competitive yeah the rest are just the values of a philistine

Hey I'm not supporting this or anything I'm just saying society's perception of manly men fit into those categories. The word MANLY is what we are looking at. Could you really consider a man small and petit, who acts feminine, loves to gossip, loves to read ladies magazines ect. A manly man?

Reply 29

skoav

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a real man is someone that identifies as a man... that's literally it. :K:

Bearded Dragon

Original post by throwaway99

Perhaps not private enough to be anon, so I made a new account

Recently, with a friend, or who I certainly thought was a friend, said in the middle of an argument (We did like each other at one point ie: like, like, for a bit of context) she randomly said "youre not a real man in my eyes lol." (sic)

That got to me a little bit.What would you call a real man?

A real man - incredibly, incredibly intelligent, the kind you can talk about ideas with for hours on end, the kind that wants to learn things not just for a career or a degree but for their own intellectual fulfilment and their quest for learning. Sensitive but reasonable, and not someone too mushy, just someone who knows where people stand and has some emotional intelligence without being a bundle of nerves. Someone who knows where he's going in life to some extent, has goals, doesn't take drugs or indulge in other addictive vices. Not a total gradgrind, someone who can appreciate art to a slight degree. Not someone riddled with anxiety and self absorption. Reliable, trustworthy, does not objectify women on any level. Not narcissistic and someone who respects both himself amd those deserving of his respect.

Think I just described my ideal man rather than a real man. A real man has boundaries, respect and is capable of perceiving reality as it is, within reason

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 32

Judomandeano

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well THIS man likes a man with a big willy and a dominant nature haha

Reply 33

Temporality

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Original post by The Juan

Hey I'm not supporting this or anything I'm just saying society's perception of manly men fit into those categories. The word MANLY is what we are looking at. Could you really consider a man small and petit, who acts feminine, loves to gossip, loves to read ladies magazines ect. A manly man?

Gossip and ladies magazines are for retards and I hope you are not associating them with womanhood because some of the female gender are at the mental level where we can see those past times for what they are - vapid.

And to answer your question I frequently fall in love with gay friends that have a feminine side due to their respect for women, their sensitivity and their lateral perception of the world.... so yes, women can fancy feminine men. We don't all want to jump into bed with the guy on the cover of Men's health.

Reply 34

Temporality

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Original post by inachigeek21

Highly intelligent.

this

Reply 35

Birkenhead

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Original post by vortex_199

Any man who is not a whining MRA and is not paranoid about reverse feminism has the potential to be a 'real man' :wink:

A woman who knows that her place is in the kitchen and keeps quiet during intellectual debates has the potential to be a 'real woman'

...is the equivalent of this ridiculous tripe. The being said, I wish you well on your romantic quest for a man who doesn't ever challenge your opinions.

Reply 36

Birkenhead

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Original post by Temporality

A real man - incredibly, incredibly intelligent, the kind you can talk about ideas with for hours on end, the kind that wants to learn things not just for a career or a degree but for their own intellectual fulfilment and their quest for learning. Sensitive but reasonable, and not someone too mushy, just someone who knows where people stand and has some emotional intelligence without being a bundle of nerves. Someone who knows where he's going in life to some extent, has goals, doesn't take drugs or indulge in other artistic vices. Not a total gradgrind, someone who can appreciate art to a slight degree. Not someone riddled with anxiety and self absorption. Reliable, trustworthy, does not objectify women on any level. Not narcissistic and someone who respects both himself amd those deserving of his respect.

Think I just described my ideal man rather than a real man. A real man has boundaries, respect and is capable of perceiving reality as it is, within reason

Most of this is good stuff but I'm disturbed that men with anxiety problems are not viewed by some as 'real men'. I would want my value as a man to be assessed on how I cope with any such problems, and what I achieve regardless, not on the effects of previous traumas and/or my brain's dysfunction.

Reply 37

vortex_199

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Original post by Birkenhead

A woman who knows that her place is in the kitchen and keeps quiet during intellectual debates has the potential to be a 'real woman'

...is the equivalent of this ridiculous tripe. The being said, I wish you well on your romantic quest for a man who doesn't ever challenge your opinions.

Ooh man vs woman MRA sob story. White, straight males have life so hard these days with all this talk of rights for everyone. Not like the good old days when women just stayed in the kitchen. *Sob*.

Reply 38

Birkenhead

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Original post by vortex_199

Ooh man vs woman MRA sob story. White, straight males have life so hard these days with all this talk of rights for everyone. Not like the good old days when women just stayed in the kitchen. *Sob*.