Open Relationships - Would you have one?

Sure you can. But because you disagree, that doesn't mean you don't understand it. What I understand of it is that on the outside people proclaim they are happy, but really they are doing it because they have massive trust issue and it helps alleviate this insecurity by having not just fall back girls/guys, but having multiple at once. I've yet to meet someone who is mentally well adjusted who thinks that an open relationship is a good idea. However if you want to find goths and rock kids who have a history of self harm and abusive pasts who are into it, well there are plenty to choose from...

You're perfectly at peace with yourself, and Russia isn't involved in Ukraine. Haven't you asked yourself why you're not enough for one person or vice-versa? Or about the links between those who participate in open relationships and mental health?

superwolf are you male or female? gay, bisexual or straight? i think theres a big difference when one or the other is gay/bi but without knowing what you are i cant get a clear view

Answers: probably, and none of the above.

I'll expand once I've heard why it matters.

Most straight relationships are not poly that's why, just curious as to what you and your partner were.

Well online at least I prefer to remain gender-neutral (I would make up some pretentious reason for this, but really it's cos it lets me get away with murder ), and I would count myself as pansexual.

I do have a good friend who's poly but completely straight (even to the point of being married! ), and I know one or two others who're more than a little heterosexual, but most people I know would probably balk at picking one gender and one gender alone to copulate with.

What was mentioned about the straight/pan sexual thing is interesting. Maybe it's that straight people can have more pressure to be more 'traditional' due to the fact that they are limited to one gender (pleasing to a large portion of the population but also competing so they try to mould into 'what is more acceptable'. So they may find the idea of open relationships strange or even threatening? I don't know...

Successful in that all parties concerned have a desire for the relationship to continue. Who are you to impose definitions on what counts as success criteria?

The definition of a relationship is perceived universally between two people; especially one that involves sexual intercourse. That's how it's defined unless you can alter this, it'll remain so.

It's very difficult and only worth pursuing if you go in there, knowing what to truly expect and being ready to communicate until your voice becomes hoarse. It's rewarding, but very complicated and not for the faint hearted.