The delicate stages of a very early relationship...

Just meet up outside the house go on days out/ dates etc for a few weeks and THEN start hanging out at your homes when you feel comfortable x

We've sort of already crossed this line... I've already spent an entire weekend and two nights at his house. I feel very comfortable doing so, and not as if he's doing it with one goal in mind, it's just that tricky juggling how comfortable we both feel with each other with my (probably unjustified) fears.

I've very recently started seeing someone: it's only been a week, but we clicked straight away and have already spent an entire weekend in each other's company, much of which was spent at his place making food, watching films, talking etc, as if we were already a couple.

We obviously 'did stuff' but I stopped him from going all the way, because, as I said to him, I'm wary about boys who only want one thing. He reassured me both in actions and words that he's not just after one thing, and we almost had sex by the end of the weekend, but decided we were both too knackered.

However, now I've had a day or two to think about things, I'm nervous again. I've recently had a couple of 'bad experiences' where I've slept with a boy I've been seeing too soon, thinking things were going well and then things ending very suddenly.

I'm seeing this new boy again soon and don't know what to do; should I tell him I've changed my mind again and want to wait a bit longer? If so, do I then tell him about the previous 'bad experiences'? I don't want to hurt his feelings by making him think that I think he's only after one thing, because I genuinely don't think he is. But I'm just so wary after my recent experiences (which he doesn't know about).

What do you think, oh wise TSR-rians?

You need to be more "active", it's not just about seeing each other in each other's places. Pursue common interests together, for example.

Poor guy, if you, as you said genuinely feel he's not after one thing, then what is stopping you? I think you're over complicating things. Surely you can see a difference between how this guy is treating you than how the others did?

Make him wait. I also went round to my boyfriend's house very early on but withheld sex for a few weeks because I wanted to do it differently in this relationship than I have before. And now I'm confident he's with me for more than just sex.

And may I ask how he reacted? Presumably he was very understanding. Did he feel hurt? Did you explain to him your reasons or simply tell him you weren't ready?