21, female, pretty - single for over a year, cannot get a boyfriend

You're at uni... Your last relationship was in 2013...

Here's my advice - QUIT WORRYING. You have your whole life ahead of you! Reading that, I thought you were going to say something like you've been single for 20+ years and are approaching the mid-life crisis phase!

Reply 21

jordanhenderson.

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Original post by Lúcio

I'm on your side!
An opposing fan decided it would be funny to berate you for saving our skins, but then your fellow supporters rallied in support of Lord Henderson :wink:

One of them being a Manchester United fan... whoever they are :u:

Reply 22

Lúcio

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Original post by matt4

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Never had a date,
Never had a gf

Relax.

Is that because you wear sunglasses everywhere? :colone:

Reply 23

Lúcio

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Original post by jordanhenderson.

One of them being a Manchester United fan... whoever they are :u:

Don't even speak of that club here Jordan. :/

Reply 24

Chicken.M.

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Original post by Anonymous

So I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t even know what sort of advice I’m looking for but I’m totally lost as to what I’m doing wrong really. Bit of background, I broke up with my last and only boyfriend in March 2013, .. fast forward 2 years.. I’ve been single that whole time. I have had a couple guys like me in that way but I haven’t had those feelings for them because there just wasn’t the attraction there. The guys I have liked and wanted to date don’t reciprocate those feelings – ever. I’m told I’m pretty and hot and great body, (I’m blonde green eyed 5,4) .. I do pole fitness so I’m pretty slim too.. I’m always friendly, up for a laugh, optimistic. I’m a good friend, good listener, I do my best to help anyone that needs it. So what the hell is up with me? I’m trying not to get bitter but I really, truly am starting to now. At first it was like, well, it’s nice being single, discovering who I am as a person etc etc and then after a while it just hurts because I’m craving that affection and intimacy and I feel as though it’s really lacking in my life. I tried OKcupid but it just felt artificial and forced and I couldn’t see me getting any real feeling/attraction through that sort of medium and that goes for all those sorts of dating platforms. I mean I’m at uni, I know a wide variety of people, you’d think at least one I’d have clicked with right? :/

What could it be? :frown:

I feel exactly the same way OP. Almost everything you've said applies to me as well lol. Nearly the same age too. I'm 20 in a couple days.

You're just picky like me. And evidently not 10/10 otherwise everyone would be after you. Takes a while to meet someone where the feeling is mutual.

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 25

lou 22

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Hun two years isn't nothing, maybe you just don't give off the right vibe or persona to people.

I am your age and have never had a guy I would call my official boyfriend, the guy I have/had fallen for who I took as my boyfriend made me feel like we were going to give it a try but he has now broke it off but I can not stop getting emotional every other day when I think how hard I fell for him, I would be willing to still try as he has had been through a really tough time that I tried to help him through it, I totally love this guy and despite our 115 mile difference I was and still am willing to try as I love the guy and he expressed similar feelings so why is he denying them for. See now I feel teary and I usually am not a emotional person.

Reply 26

lou 22

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But maybe you are too picky it is good to have standards and stuff

Reply 27

LadyMcCartney4

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jeez i'm 23 ive never had a boyfriend or had sex. cry me a river.

Reply 28

Fatcoin

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Original post by Anonymous

So I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t even know what sort of advice I’m looking for but I’m totally lost as to what I’m doing wrong really. Bit of background, I broke up with my last and only boyfriend in March 2013, .. fast forward 2 years.. I’ve been single that whole time. I have had a couple guys like me in that way but I haven’t had those feelings for them because there just wasn’t the attraction there. The guys I have liked and wanted to date don’t reciprocate those feelings – ever. I’m told I’m pretty and hot and great body, (I’m blonde green eyed 5,4) .. I do pole fitness so I’m pretty slim too.. I’m always friendly, up for a laugh, optimistic. I’m a good friend, good listener, I do my best to help anyone that needs it. So what the hell is up with me? I’m trying not to get bitter but I really, truly am starting to now. At first it was like, well, it’s nice being single, discovering who I am as a person etc etc and then after a while it just hurts because I’m craving that affection and intimacy and I feel as though it’s really lacking in my life. I tried OKcupid but it just felt artificial and forced and I couldn’t see me getting any real feeling/attraction through that sort of medium and that goes for all those sorts of dating platforms. I mean I’m at uni, I know a wide variety of people, you’d think at least one I’d have clicked with right? :/ What could it be? :frown:

Maybe you aren't as hot as you think you are. Maybe you have a repulsive personality. Maybe you don't meet enough people.

Reply 29

User 123456

You moan about being single yet reject people that like you

Unless they are horrible why dont you at least go on a date with them to see if you have any chemistry

Reply 30

Tampuanceken

Here is not a meeting platform.Here is a student portal!

Reply 31

Reue

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When girls are unable to get boyfriends its almost always down to one of two things.
Either:

- You're standards are too high
- You're not approaching anyone yourself

Resolve these and you will find a boyfriend with ease.

Reply 32

cole-slaw

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Original post by Anonymous

So I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t even know what sort of advice I’m looking for but I’m totally lost as to what I’m doing wrong really. Bit of background, I broke up with my last and only boyfriend in March 2013, .. fast forward 2 years.. I’ve been single that whole time. I have had a couple guys like me in that way but I haven’t had those feelings for them because there just wasn’t the attraction there. The guys I have liked and wanted to date don’t reciprocate those feelings – ever. I’m told I’m pretty and hot and great body, (I’m blonde green eyed 5,4) .. I do pole fitness so I’m pretty slim too.. I’m always friendly, up for a laugh, optimistic. I’m a good friend, good listener, I do my best to help anyone that needs it. So what the hell is up with me? I’m trying not to get bitter but I really, truly am starting to now. At first it was like, well, it’s nice being single, discovering who I am as a person etc etc and then after a while it just hurts because I’m craving that affection and intimacy and I feel as though it’s really lacking in my life. I tried OKcupid but it just felt artificial and forced and I couldn’t see me getting any real feeling/attraction through that sort of medium and that goes for all those sorts of dating platforms. I mean I’m at uni, I know a wide variety of people, you’d think at least one I’d have clicked with right? :/

What could it be? :frown:

Well.

- are you putting yourself out there are meeting plenty of different guys every week?

- are you making an effort to be interesting, flirty, funny and attractive?

- are you giving them a chance, ie going for drinks, sleeping with guys, seeing if a spark develops?

These things don't just happen by magic, you have to make them happen.

Reply 33

cole-slaw

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Original post by Reue

When girls are unable to get boyfriends its almost always down to one of two things.
Either:

- You're standards are too high
- You're not approaching anyone yourself

Resolve these and you will find a boyfriend with ease.

often its that they have bought the stupid myth that guys are only interested in looks and therefore make no effort to be funny and interesting.

looks alone will not get you a boyfriend. I don't care if you look like Scarlett Johanssen, if you can't hold up your end of a conversation with a bit of wit and intelligence, I'm not interested.

Reply 34

ChaoticButterfly

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Original post by Reue

When girls are unable to get boyfriends its almost always down to one of two things.
Either:

- You're standards are too high
- You're not approaching anyone yourself

Resolve these and you will find a boyfriend with ease.

The guinea pig knows all :adore:

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 35

coconuthead--

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Just go get sex

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Reply 36

coconuthead--

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Original post by Reue

When girls are unable to get boyfriends its almost always down to one of two things.
Either:

- You're standards are too high
- You're not approaching anyone yourself

Resolve these and you will find a boyfriend with ease.