ARGH...
This guy from work (I work in an office), he's only 19 but seems to have latched onto me. We're the two youngest, although I am in my mid twenties so a fair bit older. I am a sociable, friendly person so was happy to chat to him regularly in the office (we're in different rooms) and even by email. I let him add me on facebook. I started getting signs of it not being a normal, casual work friendship when I started to feel uncomfortable around him. I'm certainly no prude but he could be quite vulgar and he doesn't even know me. He had a girlfriend at this point though so I didn't feel too threatened. He made some off colour comments that offended my liberal tendencies but I did put him straight, told him off haha, and I also put it down to his young age and the fact he's never left this small rural place (I've been to Uni, lived in London after uni etc).
Anyway... he messages me all the time, work, FB messenger, and will use any excuse to try and tie to work so I have to respond as I'm higher up than him and I've been here longer. He doesn't do it as much at the mo as I've been ignoring his messages. He sent me a message the other night which I didn't read until two days later (I muted him so didn't get the notification) to say his girlfriend had dumped him and would work mind if he had a day off etc. I felt bad for him as I think he's a nice lad but I also was a bit frustrated that he was still trying to get my attention and it felt a bit like a neon sign saying I'M SINGLE NOW!!! Why can't he tell his friends who he has known for much longer, his good friends? I'm starting to think he doesn't have any...
I said I was sorry to hear it as I don't want to be heartless and ignore him but I felt like it was just his way of trying to get me to talk to him. I am, thankfully, leaving very shortly anyway so won't see him but he's started asking me what I want for a leaving present. He's boasted in the past to me about how much money he spends. I'm not materialistic, in fact I'm a bit scabby, I have no idea why he thinks it's impressive but perhaps it's because of his age. I'm clearly not that kind of girl anyway, I wear Converse to work and most of my clothes are recycled! He keeps telling me what he's thinking of buying for me but I told him not to bother and he insisted he will buy me gifts.
Just... I can't understand why he can't just be normal, I have plenty of colleagues I am friendly with, but none of them bombard me. He has calmed down since I've been ignoring him but things like the message about his girlfriend indicate to me that he's still not given up hope.
Yeah, I'm leaving, so I can just see it out and say nothing but I'm worried he'll pester me one time too much and I'll end up losing my temper with him!!!!!