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Am I weird for having had cybersex?

So, I'm a 16 year old female who yesterday, decided to try out cybering via text chat (no pictures were sent, for the literal sake of my future). Funnily enough, I enjoyed it... I connected to Omegle, found guys who were clearly there for that purpose and who instigated erotic chat, and went with it. It was odd. I went through a few partners until I found one down for some fooling around. Either I'd say something suggestive (after learning their age) or they'd jump straight in and I'd go with it. Most of the guys were 18/19, and I was more than often, honest about my age.

The issue is, I feel sort of bad. Cybersex is often referred to as a massive cesspit for losers and "skanks." I'm a virgin and I've kissed a guy once. I have very good grades and am the polar opposite of what society would consider a "slut" (I disagree with the use of this word, but most people use it anyway.) Also, there's the issue of the person on the other side not being who they say they are. Obviously, I didn't share any details and always gave a fake name/location, but I still get concerned. I don't even know if this is legal for me to be doing, as I'm not 18 yet, but surely, it can't be too bad?

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naaw ur fine. hormonal teenager, its understandable.
It's okay as long as you're the one instigating it and not being taken advantage of by older guys online. Just be careful.


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I've never understood the point of cybersex =/
I'm a 17 year old guy with good grades and a normal social life, and I sext with random people too. While many guys do live up to the 'creep' stereotype, there are plenty of normal people that do it to add an extra element of excitement into their lives. I'm not sure Omegle necessarily is the best place to find people, but as long as you stay anonymous and keep it to text chat only it should be perfectly fine :smile:
the majority of us used to have cybersex on habbo it's ok
Original post by Anonymous
So, I'm a 16 year old female who yesterday, decided to try out cybering via text chat (no pictures were sent, for the literal sake of my future)


If you were a guy you'd be called a loser, but since you're a girl then it's clearly innocent fun. :h:
Also you should totally add me on Kik - matt.hilton :P
I never understood why exchanging textual messages of erotic content is called cybersex. There is no "sex" in it only "eroticism".

P.S. OP, do whatever you want but be careful.
Original post by Anonymous
So, I'm a 16 year old female who yesterday, decided to try out cybering via text chat (no pictures were sent, for the literal sake of my future). Funnily enough, I enjoyed it... I connected to Omegle, found guys who were clearly there for that purpose and who instigated erotic chat, and went with it. It was odd. I went through a few partners until I found one down for some fooling around. Either I'd say something suggestive (after learning their age) or they'd jump straight in and I'd go with it. Most of the guys were 18/19, and I was more than often, honest about my age.

The issue is, I feel sort of bad. Cybersex is often referred to as a massive cesspit for losers and "skanks." I'm a virgin and I've kissed a guy once. I have very good grades and am the polar opposite of what society would consider a "slut" (I disagree with the use of this word, but most people use it anyway.) Also, there's the issue of the person on the other side not being who they say they are. Obviously, I didn't share any details and always gave a fake name/location, but I still get concerned. I don't even know if this is legal for me to be doing, as I'm not 18 yet, but surely, it can't be too bad?


Cybersex is about fantasy, simulation, and sexual exploration. For many people, "opening up" about their sexual desires and fantasies to a stranger or to someone with a relative degree of anonymity is highly empowering. Even if we happen to know our cybersex partner, saying private desires via the medium of a computer screen/phone etc is a lot easier than in person.

In that regard; cybersex is a powerful and POSITIVE tool.

However, if you were to engage in "sexting" that is, sending indecent/naked/sexy pictures of yourself; given that you are currently 16 then yes you WOULD be breaking the law.

In the UK, for people aged under 18; the transmission or conveyance of pornagraphic images of themselves is classified as child pornography because the law makes absolutely no distinction between whether the pornography is of yourself or of someone else. In essence then this is what we would classify in law as "mal se" that is to say, "a thing evil of itself."

Specifically, it counts as an offence of distributing an indecent image of a child and is something you could receive a police caution for. You could even end up on the sex offenders register. And that is something you want to avoid at all costs.

If you happen to send a sext to a wrong person and they are offended by it; then you are also liable for a criminal offence.

So ultimately, until you turn 18, I would strongly advise in the most emphatic terms possible to avoid sexting like the plague.

But TEXT-based cybersex there is no (legal) issue there. But remember honey, only do what YOU feel comfortable, safe and happy doing. Don't let someone bully you into something you don't want to do.

Sex isn't dirty, and it is natural you are curious. You are NOT a slut for wanting to explore it further, if we didn't explore our sexuality, the world would not exist because there would be no births!

Just make sure you explore it in the RIGHT way :smile:
Original post by Heart'n'Soul
I've never understood the point of cybersex =/


:dontknow:

is that masturbating on cam together
or is it sexting like online roleplay kinda thing?
the latter ok maybe but the first is just...

:facepalm2:

Original post by missaxo
the majority of us used to have cybersex on habbo it's ok


thanks for sharing because I didn't
Original post by Anonymous
Also you should totally add me on Kik - matt.hilton :P

I'm gonna add you for the sake of lols and trolling of course :colone:
Original post by missaxo
the majority of us used to have cybersex on habbo it's ok


O_O
It's no big deal really. I don't get why people bother with it but I don't see why there's any real problem with it either, it's not like they know anything about you and you're not being taken advantage of.

There's no laws on just sexual chatter either, so it's all good.
Original post by Man.bear.pig
:dontknow:

is that masturbating on cam together
or is it sexting like online roleplay kinda thing?
the latter ok maybe but the first is just...

:facepalm2:



thanks for sharing because I didn't


Something dumb like that..
Um, no? What a bizarre thing to worry about.

Although I will say being so worried suggests you are not mature enough.
Original post by Anonymous
So, I'm a 16 year old female who yesterday, decided to try out cybering via text chat (no pictures were sent, for the literal sake of my future). Funnily enough, I enjoyed it... I connected to Omegle, found guys who were clearly there for that purpose and who instigated erotic chat, and went with it. It was odd. I went through a few partners until I found one down for some fooling around. Either I'd say something suggestive (after learning their age) or they'd jump straight in and I'd go with it. Most of the guys were 18/19, and I was more than often, honest about my age.

The issue is, I feel sort of bad. Cybersex is often referred to as a massive cesspit for losers and "skanks." I'm a virgin and I've kissed a guy once. I have very good grades and am the polar opposite of what society would consider a "slut" (I disagree with the use of this word, but most people use it anyway.) Also, there's the issue of the person on the other side not being who they say they are. Obviously, I didn't share any details and always gave a fake name/location, but I still get concerned. I don't even know if this is legal for me to be doing, as I'm not 18 yet, but surely, it can't be too bad?
I think more people have done it than are prepared to admit. Some go in for chat, pictures, webcams, whatever (done 'em all :lol: ), some just do one or two.

Legally, I'm not sure, but I don't think it's going to cause too much of a problem, provided you're careful. Just enjoy it if you do it, eh? I'd just say that in my own experience, it's often better if it's someone you know (and can trust, obviously).

Then again, your post sounds like that's the only time you've done it, right?
Thanks guys :smile:
Original post by AvaAdore
Um, no? What a bizarre thing to worry about.

Although I will say being so worried suggests you are not mature enough.


Well look at this way. My parents are incredibly conservative when it comes to sexual issues, and would be furious if I took this up with them. I was bored, curious and I did this. Instant guilt, due to years of being told that what I just did was evil. I know it's okay rationally, but part of me still feels guilt. Maybe I'm not mature enough, fair point, but part of becoming mature is overcoming this guilt.
Original post by Anonymous
Well look at this way. My parents are incredibly conservative when it comes to sexual issues, and would be furious if I took this up with them. I was bored, curious and I did this. Instant guilt, due to years of being told that what I just did was evil. I know it's okay rationally, but part of me still feels guilt. Maybe I'm not mature enough, fair point, but part of becoming mature is overcoming this guilt.
That makes sense, though I'd encourage you to try to work past the guilt. You don't need to say anything to your parents. Just enjoy yourself; you're not doing any harm, are you?
Can't be that difficult for any girl to get sex.

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