Looking for some advice TSR.
Around end of January, early February this year I met a guy via online dating. I'd ended my previous long term relationship a month prior to meeting him. We went out 3 times, it was great and he's a really nice guy. We had a lot in common, conversation was easy and we got on really well.
On the third date he started speaking about how he's been telling his parents and work colleagues about me, and I have to admit I freaked out a little about this. I felt like it was moving way too quickly for me and I made an excuse about not seeing it work out etc. and we stopped seeing each other and talking. In hindsight I was obviously not ready for a new relationship so soon after the previous one ended, who was also my first love which made it a lot harder to get over. I felt awful about it but knew I had to sort myself out because it wasn't fair on him .
Since then I cut off all contact with my ex for months. We're back in touch but don't talk much and I feel ready to move on. I'm not desperate for a new relationship but I would be open to one if it happened.
I feel really awful about how I treated the guy I met and bailed on. It kinda feels like we just met at the wrong time and if I wasn't so stupid looking for something that soon after a failed relationship, then something couldve happened . I've thought about it quite a bit since it happened and I've always convinced myself out of not getting back in touch with him to explain what really happened.
I'm considering sending him a message apologising for what happened before, and explaining that it was my fault and nothing to do with him. Do you think this is a stupid idea? It would make me feel a lot better knowing that he knows why I ran away so quickly like I did, and I'd be open to maybe seeing if anything could develop now, if he was interested also and wasn't seeing anybody else. What do you think his reaction would be?
Thanks <3