I don't want to use condoms. I do want sex.

Lol if I was a guy I would never wear a condom, whats the point of having sex if you are gonna put on a condom. Thank god Im a lesbian I dont have to worry about **** like this.

Good luck protecting yourself from STDs

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I'm sure they are genuine and could help the OP.

Actually, talking of STDs, it's not so much OP as "Ow! Pee!"

Fine, I respect your view but that isn't me, so please don't level that at me, I wasn't talking or intending co-ercing, I was talking the dilemma between remaining celibate and doing it with a woman who wanted it without a condom, which I was recently offered. It would have been my choice to use a condom, we were so attracted I don't think I'd have the willpower. It's a constant dilemma. One part of me thinks we were made for each other and would have made a beautiful child(please don't attack me as an eviel guy with some feminist rhetoric for this, tell me it's fantasy , or that she hates me, you go girl, she is abiove you etc-not saying you're one of those but they do exist quite a lot) the other part is glad I practiced a quite noble sexual restraint.

Why does everyone assume it's like that. For a start I could be in committed monogamy

I could sleep with a girl unprotected where we both really like each other and I know she isn't the type who's slept around unprotected

Seriously? You think that's noble? Wow...I shall recommend you for a Victoria Cross...

But you're not. You said you are single and intend to stay that way because you won't use a condom.

That's refreshingly honest, non radical feminist and non - received wisdom.

Thankyou.

I don't understand the thread really. Most people I know in relationships, the girl is on the pill. Get in one of these relationships.

I'd feel OK about oral sex and mutual masturbation. But once you're in sorry, it just seems wrong,

If you think someone has aids and wouldn't tell you, why the hell would you be with them anyway? And I don't want to have vapid sex with strangers anyhow. I want a relationship with interaction beyond that, I know that may seem weird in an era obsessed with staring at devices.

Hmm. Have you ever actually performed sexual intercourse? Either with or without a condom?

Ok, I don't mean just as in, selfishly, it feels worse for me. I mean as in a serious moral objection to contraception. Whats the point in desiring a woman then ruining it with this stupid contraption? I will always be stigmatised and judged for being celibate or single, and not having sex for ages can get to me, plus not having the company of a woman I find attractive. So, should I just go **** it, and if it happens with no condom let it happen?

You sound like such a chill guy, are you ready to be a father? and maybe swap some STD's around whilst you're at it?

I'm not surprised your not getting any if you won't use a condom, you have to use them with sex workers so good luck finding someone (sober/with consent) that will let you go condom-less.

Why do you talk about sex without a condom as though it's the weirdist thing in the world, when it is the sole reason we are here today? And why must all sex without a condom be categorised as sleeping around with randomers , the likes of drug addicts. Stop shaming and patholi#ogising something totally natural, it's the usual perverse liberal crap from brats who think they know everything, but then how could they when they have never known the significance of having a child, an d much of the propaganda comes from people who've never had them.