If a guy wants you to change.. should you?

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Reply 40

Proxenus

If there is no argument there is no real relationship

Reply 41

username2362191

Original post by Proxenus

If there is no argument there is no real relationship

False.

Reply 42

anniethedoc

Thank you everyone who responded. We broke up..

Reply 43

Akarim11

If there were your bad traits (like if you did bad things) then i guess.

Otherwise I'll tell him to do1

Reply 44

Withengar

What I'm about to say applies to both and all genders, but it can be incorporated into this topic.

If someone you truly care about and someone who truly cares about you asks you to change, consider what they're asking you to change. If they're suggesting you change something actively negative, harmful or hurtful - do so. This would include anything from smoking and drinking to negative personal traits, such as racism and homophobia. If the change makes you a better, healthier person, strongly consider it.

However, if someone suggests that you change minor things about yourself that are in no way hurtful or negative, be quite wary of it. Don't change your essence, who you are and what you are simply because someone doesn't like it. Be yourself, within kind, reasonable limits, but yourself nonetheless. People have quirks. There's a difference between someone trying to help you by asking you to change something and wanting to change you from the ground up.

Reply 45

Anonymous #2

Original post by Proxenus

If there is no argument there is no real relationship

Not true. My boyfriend and I've had one argument the entire time we've been together and that was drunk. It's nice being in a relationship where you don't argue.