Hi, so to be concise I am a third year finalist in PPE at Oxford. I am originally from Finland. Throughout these almost 3 years I only had 1 summer job for an NGO and 1 spring week in a non-flashy bank. I am predicted 2:1 and will probably graduate with a mid-high 2:1. I do not have any job offers as of yet, but I was not really looking that hard. I have submitted some applications but I have even ignored some telephone interviews / assessment centres because of the amount of workload in my final year. I am holding a couple of offers for MSc in Economics / Management / Finance. I am still undecided what I would really like to do academically or professionally.
I was not planning on staying in the UK. I wanted to go back to Finland or go somewhere else like Norway, France or the US. Recently I have been dating this other Oxford student (roughly 3 months now). She is only my second relationship during my time in Oxford. We're getting along very well and I think this could be love.
Important information to consider about her is that she is from a very conservative Methodist family, also a very wealthy family, that she is doing a STEM subject and has a better CV than me.
Why would that bother me, you may be wondering? After all we are both about to graduate from Oxford and have a high prospect of building the future together. This is probably true but then it is all relative. The fact that she is doing a STEM subject and has a much better CV than me makes her a better candidate for the job market and she is likely to adjust much better than I. On top of that she gets a lot of support from her wealthy English household. This creates a problem in the sense that I have nothing to offer her and indeed may seem like a bum compared to her.
This is a little bit like masculinity crisis. It is definitely me who is the one going up the 'social ladder' by dating her in terms of socio-economic status.
I am already a bit insecure because I have always thought that for a relationship to be successful the male has to be offering something: an economic or social advancement or security of some sort. Here it's the other way round.
I mean, I was into academia for a while but now I can only envisage this relationship if I earn more in a bank or consulting firm and try to catch up with her experience. Then again, her STEM background in tech makes her a very good start up candidate and she is very likely to be earning 6 digit figure in the near future.
Do you have any experience / knowledge of relationships such as this one? What do you think about this situation?