cut off a friend and struggling to cope

I've had strong feelings for a good friend who sadly didn't return them for more than 6 months. There were loads of things; not yet over his ex, long-distance etc. but ultimately he only saw me as a friend. However, he was very interested in sex with me and seemed to find me very attractive, but that only served to complicate the friendship and to hurt me. We talked virtually daily on facebook since January, with only a couple of exceptions, but I know that didn't help matters.

I've deleted him from social media, and I know he's maybe going to be in town next month but seeing him won't help. Next month, he's going to be moving to the other side of the world for at least a year. I wrote him a kind message wishing him the best of luck, apologised for why I was doing this, said it wasn't againt him, but just to help me.

I told him that in other circumstances he would have been one of my best friends, and that I'd still think of him from time to time and hoped our mutual friend would let me know how he was doing. I said I hoped he'd be happy and everything and that who knows, if he ever comes back to live here in the future, maybe we can see each other and be friends again. I said that I would have loved to stay friends, but I needed to move on, and I was struggling..

I'm not even sure whether he's sad or not or whether he doesn't actually care. I'd have hoped he'd at least been a bit sad at losing our friendship, even if I know he doesn't share the feelings. He replied with 'I totally understand. No worries. Thanks Bye

whereas he normally writes with more 'energy' and friendliness if that makes sense.

The truth is that I've tried going on other dates, I've tried to tell myself over and over every bad point of him, my friends have told me he's not worth it, even he told me he's not worth it.

I think knowing that he maybe wasn't even that sad at losing the friendship hurt me too. The truth is that I will never see him as 'just a friend', and if he came back and asked me out tomorrow, i'd say yes without hesitation. Any advice of how to move on more quickly? I miss him so much and I know i've done the right thing ,but it's so hard..

This happens a lot. And will happen again to you in one way or another. You will soon learn that time will heal. It might seem it will never happen, you will never get over him. But you will... time heals literally everything like this.
People have gotten over a divorce after decades of marriage. So talking since January online is not a biggie. Go make your self a cuppa and look up funny and cute videos on youtube and PM me if you need to talk... I had to do something similar but it was someone who "loved" me back for years and we dated then she cheated and I had to cut her off... and I got over that. Just give it time!

Yeah, you're right Well I mean we used to see each other too, and we ended up sleeping together a couple of times, but he's moved away now so I haven't seen him since May. I wanted to go and visit him but he wouldn't let me, saying he 'didn't want me to get attached' as he was moving so far away.

Thanks You're right, I can get over it! I will get there

Yep this it. He doesn't want you to get attached so just move on. This time next year you won't believe how attached you were.

Time alone does not heal, keep your contact to minimal so time can do its work.