Can I call and enquire about my friend at work?

One of my friends recently started a new job but has been through a tough time lately. I've seen pics of him and he looks very sad. Can I call his employer to ask about his wellbeing? I don't want my friend to know I called. He is ignoring everyone including mutual friends so we are a bit concerned. Thanks

No you can't.

No you can't.

This. While I'd say it wouldn't hurt to phone anyway and ask them to relay the message that you hope they're OK, in reality they wouldn't, and they'd potentially wonder if they should have employed OP's friend in the first place, if they've got bad enough problems to warrant friends phoning on to check up on them.

I wish I could enquire anonymously but not sure what or how much they would tell me. Need to think of an alternative idea. Thanks

How about chill your beans and wait for your friend to get back to you? Otherwise you run the risk of becoming more than a little bit stalkerish.

As soon as you ring it's going to open a massive can of worms, I'm taking a guess that this employer doesn't know your friend is going through a tough time so you not only put them in an awkward situation (as if it's something serious they have to follow up on it) but then it puts him in an awkward situation wondering a) how they know whats happening and b)He may not want to talk about it

Also...that's a really stalkerish thing to do

Appreciate your reply but it's not stalkerish if you knew the full circumstances. It's called caring.

One of my friends recently started a new job but has been through a tough time lately. I've seen pics of him and he looks very sad. Can I call his employer to ask about his wellbeing? I don't want my friend to know I called. He is ignoring everyone including mutual friends so we are a bit concerned. Thanks

One of my friends recently started a new job but has been through a tough time lately. I've seen pics of him and he looks very sad. Can I call his employer to ask about his wellbeing? I don't want my friend to know I called. He is ignoring everyone including mutual friends so we are a bit concerned. Thanks

I think he'd be really angry if you did this. I would be. I strongly advise you not to do this.

God no one can say anything without other people being down right rude about it. They are not in your situation 😡 makes me mad that people can be so rude.
I feel for you because I've need in the same situation, I've watched my friend go through things and still does, her manager however is aware but she does struggle a lot at work and I don't think her colleagues are quite so understanding ☹️
I hope your friends ok. It may make him feel better if he knows that you care. It's horrible wanting to check in but not being able too. I've too considered calling people who I think may help but haven't because she just wouldn't want me to do that and it's not worth losing her as a friend or making it worse. X


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Much as it is good you are concerned, a workplace should only be contacted in s real emergency such as if a parent was in an accident or gone to hospitsl.

Can you not make contact on another way such as via a brother or parent?