Can a girl and guy be best friends?
Sooo. hi guys.
I have a male friend, who has a girlfriend. I am single. We went to 6th form together, but lost touch when we went to university. He added me on facebook around 4-5 years ago and we have been talking ever since, like almost everyday. I did have a crush on him in school, but I think I'm over that anyway..
He got together with his girlfriend, a few months before adding me on facebook. He always wants to meet up with me alone, but as I grew up in a strict family, I won't be allowed and I don't really want to lie to my family and meet him. He's asking me to sneak out to see him at night, but isn't this wrong asking me to do this while he has a girlfriend??
What are your thoughts guys? He always calls me his best friend, but do best friends do this? He ignores his girlfriends calls to talk to me. Even she thinks he cares about me more than her..
Thanks in advance peeps
I have a male friend, who has a girlfriend. I am single. We went to 6th form together, but lost touch when we went to university. He added me on facebook around 4-5 years ago and we have been talking ever since, like almost everyday. I did have a crush on him in school, but I think I'm over that anyway..
He got together with his girlfriend, a few months before adding me on facebook. He always wants to meet up with me alone, but as I grew up in a strict family, I won't be allowed and I don't really want to lie to my family and meet him. He's asking me to sneak out to see him at night, but isn't this wrong asking me to do this while he has a girlfriend??
What are your thoughts guys? He always calls me his best friend, but do best friends do this? He ignores his girlfriends calls to talk to me. Even she thinks he cares about me more than her..
Thanks in advance peeps
of course you can have a boy bestfriend!...
As for the wanting to meet you alone it might be that he feels like he can talk to you about things his gf doesnt understand. Or he perhaps likes having you as his friend, and he only wants you to be his friend. Alot of people when they get in a relationship their friendship group becomes friends they share. He might want you and his gf to be separate because if they share the same friends he might struggle to confide in them (incase they tell her) i/e) if hes having relationship trouble.
the other possibility is that he might like you a bit?
either way i wouldn't question him about it incase it makes things awks.
you could maybe ask him where his gf is next time you meet up, and casually say 'ahh why do you never bring her'
sorry if this makes no sense
As for the wanting to meet you alone it might be that he feels like he can talk to you about things his gf doesnt understand. Or he perhaps likes having you as his friend, and he only wants you to be his friend. Alot of people when they get in a relationship their friendship group becomes friends they share. He might want you and his gf to be separate because if they share the same friends he might struggle to confide in them (incase they tell her) i/e) if hes having relationship trouble.
the other possibility is that he might like you a bit?
either way i wouldn't question him about it incase it makes things awks.
you could maybe ask him where his gf is next time you meet up, and casually say 'ahh why do you never bring her'
sorry if this makes no sense
Maybe it's possible but usually I think there are feelings involved.
I'd say chances are this guy is attracted to you, but wanting to hang out isn't by itself suspicious or out of line. Same for not answering his phone when he's talking to you - depending on who you ask it'd be rude to take phone calls while socialising (esp. if his gf likes to talk a lot).
I'd say chances are this guy is attracted to you, but wanting to hang out isn't by itself suspicious or out of line. Same for not answering his phone when he's talking to you - depending on who you ask it'd be rude to take phone calls while socialising (esp. if his gf likes to talk a lot).
Original post by Anonymous
of course you can have a boy bestfriend!...
As for the wanting to meet you alone it might be that he feels like he can talk to you about things his gf doesnt understand. Or he perhaps likes having you as his friend, and he only wants you to be his friend. Alot of people when they get in a relationship their friendship group becomes friends they share. He might want you and his gf to be separate because if they share the same friends he might struggle to confide in them (incase they tell her) i/e) if hes having relationship trouble.
the other possibility is that he might like you a bit?
either way i wouldn't question him about it incase it makes things awks.
you could maybe ask him where his gf is next time you meet up, and casually say 'ahh why do you never bring her'
sorry if this makes no sense
As for the wanting to meet you alone it might be that he feels like he can talk to you about things his gf doesnt understand. Or he perhaps likes having you as his friend, and he only wants you to be his friend. Alot of people when they get in a relationship their friendship group becomes friends they share. He might want you and his gf to be separate because if they share the same friends he might struggle to confide in them (incase they tell her) i/e) if hes having relationship trouble.
the other possibility is that he might like you a bit?
either way i wouldn't question him about it incase it makes things awks.
you could maybe ask him where his gf is next time you meet up, and casually say 'ahh why do you never bring her'
sorry if this makes no sense
thank you for your reply! it makes sense
i totally understand what you're saying. i did try asking lets meet up with your gf, and he said itll be boring and he cant be himself if she comes, so he wont ask herOriginal post by miser
Maybe it's possible but usually I think there are feelings involved.
I'd say chances are this guy is attracted to you, but wanting to hang out isn't by itself suspicious or out of line. Same for not answering his phone when he's talking to you - depending on who you ask it'd be rude to take phone calls while socialising (esp. if his gf likes to talk a lot).
I'd say chances are this guy is attracted to you, but wanting to hang out isn't by itself suspicious or out of line. Same for not answering his phone when he's talking to you - depending on who you ask it'd be rude to take phone calls while socialising (esp. if his gf likes to talk a lot).
thank you for your reply
that is true. thing is he always complains about her to me, and says he wants to break up with her. then they hang out together the next day :/
Original post by Anonymous
thank you for your reply that is true. thing is he always complains about her to me, and says he wants to break up with her. then they hang out together the next day :/
that is true. thing is he always complains about her to me, and says he wants to break up with her. then they hang out together the next day :/People in relationships do offload on their friends, especially ones they consider "besties "
The key is to listen and not offer an opinion.
Your gender doesn't equate to the quality of a friendship
Although it sounds a bit like you have feelings for him...
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