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Women should 'cook and clean?'
It's 2018 and there are still people who believe that a womans role is to cook and clean, like I just don't understand whyy? We are not servants, yes we need to cook and clean but I think both the man and the women should do it. Why is there this expectation and view of women? I have a brother who thinks like that and I just cannot stand, he says things like, '' I have a sister why can't she make me food? Why can't she clean my room? That's why women are created to cook and clean.''
Its absoloutely ridiculous! I hate it when he says that and I find it really hard to defend myself or throw a comeback. Any ideas for good comeback? And how is this view supposed to be abolished? And why did this view ever come to existence?
Its absoloutely ridiculous! I hate it when he says that and I find it really hard to defend myself or throw a comeback. Any ideas for good comeback? And how is this view supposed to be abolished? And why did this view ever come to existence?
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Keep In mind he may just be saying this to wind you up. Make him see it doesn't affect you or brush it off. If he persists or it's how he genuinely feels then remind him he's going to have a pretty lonely future!
Unfortunately these types of views will never go away completely, all stereotypes are exist, it's what we choose to do about it that matters.
Unfortunately these types of views will never go away completely, all stereotypes are exist, it's what we choose to do about it that matters.
Don't listen to him,he is just ignorant.I wouldn't bother talking to him in the first place.
I am a girl and I honestly don't mind doing all the cooking and cleaning like even doing all my partner's chores.
I find a bit weird when other girls complain but maybe it is because I have been brought up in a traditional setting and the expectation turned into practice.
I find a bit weird when other girls complain but maybe it is because I have been brought up in a traditional setting and the expectation turned into practice.
Original post by Anonymous
I am a girl and I honestly don't mind doing all the cooking and cleaning like even doing all my partner's chores.
I find a bit weird when other girls complain but maybe it is because I have been brought up in a traditional setting and the expectation turned into practice.
I find a bit weird when other girls complain but maybe it is because I have been brought up in a traditional setting and the expectation turned into practice.
You man not mind and thats okay, but it is like a label for women and i do not appreciate that because its saying we live to do everynes chores
Original post by Anonymous
It's 2018 and there are still people who believe that a womans role is to cook and clean, like I just don't understand whyy? We are not servants, yes we need to cook and clean but I think both the man and the women should do it. Why is there this expectation and view of women? I have a brother who thinks like that and I just cannot stand, he says things like, '' I have a sister why can't she make me food? Why can't she clean my room? That's why women are created to cook and clean.''
Its absoloutely ridiculous! I hate it when he says that and I find it really hard to defend myself or throw a comeback. Any ideas for good comeback? And how is this view supposed to be abolished? And why did this view ever come to existence?
Its absoloutely ridiculous! I hate it when he says that and I find it really hard to defend myself or throw a comeback. Any ideas for good comeback? And how is this view supposed to be abolished? And why did this view ever come to existence?
sounds like your brother is probably just lazy and trying to troll you into doing stuff for him
but tbh on gender roles, most wives would still expect the husband to handle something like a broken shelf/putting up a new wardrobe/getting rid of the huge spider the size of a baby's hand ..etc
so what's the harm in doing a bit more cooking and cleaning than a dude.......
Don't ever let anyone make you feel like you have to be a certain way, or act a certain way because you're a woman. There is no place for chauvinism and misogyny in modern society. The sooner we all reject those horrid, antiquated notions, the better. That much should be clear to any reasonable person.
So, no, women are not obligated to cook or clean. In modern society, chores and duties should be equally shared between two coequals.
So, no, women are not obligated to cook or clean. In modern society, chores and duties should be equally shared between two coequals.
Original post by Anonymous
It's 2018 and there are still people who believe that a womans role is to cook and clean, like I just don't understand whyy? We are not servants, yes we need to cook and clean but I think both the man and the women should do it. Why is there this expectation and view of women? I have a brother who thinks like that and I just cannot stand, he says things like, '' I have a sister why can't she make me food? Why can't she clean my room? That's why women are created to cook and clean.''
Its absoloutely ridiculous! I hate it when he says that and I find it really hard to defend myself or throw a comeback. Any ideas for good comeback? And how is this view supposed to be abolished? And why did this view ever come to existence?
Its absoloutely ridiculous! I hate it when he says that and I find it really hard to defend myself or throw a comeback. Any ideas for good comeback? And how is this view supposed to be abolished? And why did this view ever come to existence?
Looks like your bro is still living in the dark ages. Tell him I said good luck finding a girl
but you can just say sexist **** back like:
"A woman's place is in the kitchen" you know what you're right. Lemme grab a knife."
"Man: "Nice tits." Me: "If you're going to be a sexist pig at least be accurate. I have fantastic breasts."
"5yo daughter got told by a 7yo boy at the park that 'boys are best'. She promptly out performed him on monkey bars" (just do amazing in something
)"Bloke: 'you're a bit too thin for me'. Me: 'that's lucky because you're a bit too thick for me'."
"MAN: "Ive got the F, C and K, all I need is U" ME: "I've got the B, Y and E, so I don't need U"
"Him: "Look darlin, I don't mean to hassle you but…" Me: "WELL THEN DON'T HASSLE ME."
"Male colleague: "Don't mind her, she's on her period." Me: "If I had to bleed to find you annoying, I'd be anaemic."
"A friend heard a guy shout 'Sit on my face!' at a girl who replied 'Why, is your nose bigger than your ****?'"
"On train home guy rubs my bum. I grab hand, lift it in the air & say "has anyone lost a hand? I found this one on my arse!"
Hope they help
Original post by Bham369
Looks like your bro is still living in the dark ages. Tell him I said good luck finding a girl
but you can just say sexist **** back like:
"A woman's place is in the kitchen" you know what you're right. Lemme grab a knife."
"Man: "Nice tits." Me: "If you're going to be a sexist pig at least be accurate. I have fantastic breasts."
"5yo daughter got told by a 7yo boy at the park that 'boys are best'. She promptly out performed him on monkey bars" (just do amazing in something)
"Bloke: 'you're a bit too thin for me'. Me: 'that's lucky because you're a bit too thick for me'."
"MAN: "Ive got the F, C and K, all I need is U" ME: "I've got the B, Y and E, so I don't need U"
"Him: "Look darlin, I don't mean to hassle you but…" Me: "WELL THEN DON'T HASSLE ME."
"Male colleague: "Don't mind her, she's on her period." Me: "If I had to bleed to find you annoying, I'd be anaemic."
"A friend heard a guy shout 'Sit on my face!' at a girl who replied 'Why, is your nose bigger than your ****?'"
"On train home guy rubs my bum. I grab hand, lift it in the air & say "has anyone lost a hand? I found this one on my arse!"
Hope they help
but you can just say sexist **** back like:
"A woman's place is in the kitchen" you know what you're right. Lemme grab a knife."
"Man: "Nice tits." Me: "If you're going to be a sexist pig at least be accurate. I have fantastic breasts."
"5yo daughter got told by a 7yo boy at the park that 'boys are best'. She promptly out performed him on monkey bars" (just do amazing in something
) "Bloke: 'you're a bit too thin for me'. Me: 'that's lucky because you're a bit too thick for me'."
"MAN: "Ive got the F, C and K, all I need is U" ME: "I've got the B, Y and E, so I don't need U"
"Him: "Look darlin, I don't mean to hassle you but…" Me: "WELL THEN DON'T HASSLE ME."
"Male colleague: "Don't mind her, she's on her period." Me: "If I had to bleed to find you annoying, I'd be anaemic."
"A friend heard a guy shout 'Sit on my face!' at a girl who replied 'Why, is your nose bigger than your ****?'"
"On train home guy rubs my bum. I grab hand, lift it in the air & say "has anyone lost a hand? I found this one on my arse!"
Hope they help
Thank you! lol I see you going on the gaurdian lool
Original post by Anonymous
You man not mind and thats okay, but it is like a label for women and i do not appreciate that because its saying we live to do everynes chores
Ohh, I think I understand what you're trying to say now. Maybe it because I haven't had derogatory terms and stuff like "women live to do chores" used against me - that is completely wrong! In fact, it is more sympathy and praise for being so strong and handling everything so well.
In my family, the girls are required to do all the house care taking and manage kids and tackle their jobs whilst the men are supposed to support to the best of their abilities but it is still expected from the woman to manage everything (I could ask my partner to clean our room or clean the living room every now and then but I can't keep asking since I am hot-wired to do it myself).
Original post by Anonymous
Thank you! lol I see you going on the gaurdian lool
No problem. Enjoy watching his face as you get your own back In some cultures that is what you are taught from a very young age, so it what you come it accept. This goes back to the days when women had to stay at home and look after children, so did the housework whilst the men went to work.
In western society things have changed and it’s not the only accepted lifestyle choice for women to take. So most that rattle off that kind of (frankly sexist) rhetoric are those that benefit from it (I.e, lazy men).
In western society things have changed and it’s not the only accepted lifestyle choice for women to take. So most that rattle off that kind of (frankly sexist) rhetoric are those that benefit from it (I.e, lazy men).
Of course women should have the opportunity to get a career and work too, but the reason why tradition has kept women doing household chores is because it all comes with the responsibility of looking after a child. The increasing pressure and expectation for women to go out and work has resulted in children being put in these daycare centers, or just to be put in front of a television. It's nowadays a death sentence to say that women are naturally better suited for taking care of the child. Men should help too, but the traditional roles aren't there for no reason.
Original post by Anonymous
Ohh, I think I understand what you're trying to say now. Maybe it because I haven't had derogatory terms and stuff like "women live to do chores" used against me - that is completely wrong! In fact, it is more sympathy and praise for being so strong and handling everything so well.
In my family, the girls are required to do all the house care taking and manage kids and tackle their jobs whilst the men are supposed to support to the best of their abilities but it is still expected from the woman to manage everything (I could ask my partner to clean our room or clean the living room every now and then but I can't keep asking since I am hot-wired to do it myself).
In my family, the girls are required to do all the house care taking and manage kids and tackle their jobs whilst the men are supposed to support to the best of their abilities but it is still expected from the woman to manage everything (I could ask my partner to clean our room or clean the living room every now and then but I can't keep asking since I am hot-wired to do it myself).
Just out of interest, do you work? I am female and I would be perfectly happy to do all the chores at home if I didn't have to go to work or if I only worked part time. If both my partner and I work similar hours, there is no excuse for him to be lying on the sofa in front of the telly after work while I cook and clean.
Original post by Anonymous
I am a girl and I honestly don't mind doing all the cooking and cleaning like even doing all my partner's chores.
I find a bit weird when other girls complain but maybe it is because I have been brought up in a traditional setting and the expectation turned into practice.
I find a bit weird when other girls complain but maybe it is because I have been brought up in a traditional setting and the expectation turned into practice.
stfu
I must be weird then, no one cleans up my ****, NOBODY.
Original post by PhilanderingBum
When/If I get married and I have a job and my spouse doesn't, I won't do any tidying. If we both have jobs, the logical option is to divide the tasks but I sure as sh1t won't do any tidying lol. I don't mind cooking from time to time, I like being in control of my diet but that's just me. If she has a problem with that, she can fvck off.
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Whilst I don't agree with a lot of what you have written (none of the women I socialise with would be fulfilled simply by looking after their partner and kids; they are all very driven and well rounded individuals to whom having a family is just part of what they enjoy in life), the above I very much agree with. I would be happy to look after the house if my partner worked and I didn't but no way will I be doing it all on my own if I also have a full time job.
Original post by Bham369
Looks like your bro is still living in the dark ages. Tell him I said good luck finding a girl
but you can just say sexist **** back like:
"A woman's place is in the kitchen" you know what you're right. Lemme grab a knife."
"Man: "Nice tits." Me: "If you're going to be a sexist pig at least be accurate. I have fantastic breasts."
"5yo daughter got told by a 7yo boy at the park that 'boys are best'. She promptly out performed him on monkey bars" (just do amazing in something)
"Bloke: 'you're a bit too thin for me'. Me: 'that's lucky because you're a bit too thick for me'."
"MAN: "Ive got the F, C and K, all I need is U" ME: "I've got the B, Y and E, so I don't need U"
"Him: "Look darlin, I don't mean to hassle you but…" Me: "WELL THEN DON'T HASSLE ME."
"Male colleague: "Don't mind her, she's on her period." Me: "If I had to bleed to find you annoying, I'd be anaemic."
"A friend heard a guy shout 'Sit on my face!' at a girl who replied 'Why, is your nose bigger than your ****?'"
"On train home guy rubs my bum. I grab hand, lift it in the air & say "has anyone lost a hand? I found this one on my arse!"
Hope they help
but you can just say sexist **** back like:
"A woman's place is in the kitchen" you know what you're right. Lemme grab a knife."
"Man: "Nice tits." Me: "If you're going to be a sexist pig at least be accurate. I have fantastic breasts."
"5yo daughter got told by a 7yo boy at the park that 'boys are best'. She promptly out performed him on monkey bars" (just do amazing in something
) "Bloke: 'you're a bit too thin for me'. Me: 'that's lucky because you're a bit too thick for me'."
"MAN: "Ive got the F, C and K, all I need is U" ME: "I've got the B, Y and E, so I don't need U"
"Him: "Look darlin, I don't mean to hassle you but…" Me: "WELL THEN DON'T HASSLE ME."
"Male colleague: "Don't mind her, she's on her period." Me: "If I had to bleed to find you annoying, I'd be anaemic."
"A friend heard a guy shout 'Sit on my face!' at a girl who replied 'Why, is your nose bigger than your ****?'"
"On train home guy rubs my bum. I grab hand, lift it in the air & say "has anyone lost a hand? I found this one on my arse!"
Hope they help
Where did this copy pasta originate? Reddit?
Original post by Anonymous
Just out of interest, do you work? I am female and I would be perfectly happy to do all the chores at home if I didn't have to go to work or if I only worked part time. If both my partner and I work similar hours, there is no excuse for him to be lying on the sofa in front of the telly after work while I cook and clean.
Yup, I work! Also it is not just me but my mum was the same. My aunts are the same as well. Lawyers/engineers/doctors and still looking after the kids/house and their husbands.
Original post by Anonymous
stfu
To each their own, if you don't want to do housework then don't. Just because my opinion differs from you, don't tell me to shut up.
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