Hi guys, just wondering if I could have a few opinions please on a situation my friend has been going through. Not posting on my actual account as don’t want to be connected to them and then it’ll be obvious to some who it is!
“I left high school in June. I was the sort that got easily stressed out in exams and stuff particularly in the last six months of Year 11. My English teacher (in her 40s, female, family of her own etc) was loved by all students for being the cool teacher as she’d turn the novels we were studying into innuendos and mock the school system and stuff. She is renowned for great results and was on the leadership team at the school a few years prior. Anyway we were very alike in personality and we became ‘friends’ in a way, effectively at first it was just that she’d taken me under her wing so to speak. She’d email feedback on my work on her professional email address, but then in Jan of 2018 she started using her personal email address and discussing things that has nothing to do with school like her tea, kids, holiday, slating the school for poor management... etc. I was 16 at this point.
Prom came around and she met my family as they were taking photos of me and my friends. The teacher added my mum and my sister on Facebook which they just thought was friendly at the time. She’d asked me how I was on an email a few days later and then said she was sick of slow interaction, and gave me her number. She’d ring most nights and we’d sometimes be on the phone over 1 hour. Leavers hoodies arrived at my school ready for collection the week after, and she messaged my mum to tell her that she’d already snuck it in her bag to ‘save me the hassle’ from going back to school and she would drop it over at my house. Which she did - came over for a coffee the next week. At the end of the visit she gave me a book and a gemstone that she’d bought off her holiday that meant to have anti-worry properties. She then text me for at least an hour or two, EVERY night. I forgot to reply for a couple of days and she sent me a handwritten letter addressed to my house! This went on for 2 weeks before I told her I was having a break from technology just as not to feel rude!
I didn’t contact her since after speaking to my mum and agreeing that it was too intense and unusual. My mum and my best friend know all about the texts, the emails and how she’s been and they have told me I’m right to cut ties completely.
She sent me an email on results day on her professional account once more saying ‘congratulations’, nothing more. Still likes my family’s posts on Facebook, especially ones with me in them. She knows where I work as I told her when I got the job back in the summer. She specifically said ‘is it a Saturday job?’ to which I replied it was lots of weekends, but all days through the week really! I was working yesterday and she came into the shop with her 3 kids and was in a good 30/40 minutes and kept walking back in and out - it’s 10 miles from where she lives and there are two closer branches to her house. I tried to put it out my mind, focus on other things and give a wide birth and not engage with her as I felt awkward but I had no choice but to serve someone very close by her and just felt her staring at me the entire time, eyes on me constantly. I finished my shift not long after but left feeling very unsettled and weird. It’s been playing on my mind ever since because it’s over 6 MONTHS since I’ve last seen her in person.
Do you think this could be just trying to be friendly and I’ve interpreted it all wrong? Honest opinions on the entire thing and recommended courses of action would be so appreciated.”