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I've been masturbating daily for the last 10 years

should i quit?

My personality is 0/10, no self-confidence at all. I don't think I deserve anything because I am a sad, lonely, not very clever or good--looking person. I can't speak in sentences. I'm balding. I am only 21 (third year). I am missing nearly every day of university. I have never had any friends nor have I ever been out with someone other than my family to events/outings.

What should I do?

Reply 2

Xenobee

You should stop. You'll feel better about yourself when you stop and, in the event that you do find someone to have sex with, you'll find it more pleasurable. It seems to me like you have an issue with depression and self esteem. There are likely places that you can go to access help at your university but failing that the NHS is always there to help and there are hella resouces online to help you view yourself in a lighter way

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

do you think how im feeling is related to my masturbation?

Reply 4

Dunnig Kruger

The masturbation is fine. It's good exercise and helps you get to sleep. You might want to give yourself a rest day now and again. Just to break up the routine a bit and add some variety to your life.

Now as for the other things. They are far more important.

Your general mood and demeanor and outlook on life is far too negative. Your life is only a nanoscopically small speck on the history of the Universe. Don't take your life too seriously. Treat it as one big comedy sketch. Something for you to enjoy whilst you're here on Earth. Which isn't long in the grand scheme of things.

Your clever enough. You got into Uni!

Balding? Shave yourself or give yourself a Number 1 cut. It's a good enough look. Never did Bruce Willis any harm.
Go to all your lectures. They're interesting. It's great learning new things. Get your assignments and projects done on time or early.
Can't speak in sentences? Get yourself a job as a pundit on Match of the Day. Speaking a sentence in one go is something that Alan Shearer has never mastered.
Start acting enthusiastic and you'll make friends.
Looks? Do 10 minutes exercise at a pulse rate of 130 beats per minute every other day and you'll get yourself into good physical shape within 9 months. If you have a reasonable body you will be better looking than 50% of 22 year olds on the beach.

Get your family to start acting as your "wingmen" when you go out with them.

Reply 5

JTfoxlove

It sounds to me that masturbating really isn't the problem. A lack of confidence and potentially poor mental health is. Sexuality and time will result in sexual activity - be it with a partner or on your own - for most people it's a positive thing.

I'd recommend you work on exercising, socialising and positive thought. These are skill sets, yes some people are naturally gifted in them but through practice and focus anyone can pick them up.

I'd join a club, start volunteering and work on doing health pursuits outside of the house ideally with other people around.

I'd contact a doctor and have a chat about how you are feeling and also talk to your university if missing days is going to have an impact on your academic career. Your university will also have a counselling service which I would use.

Bottom line your young, brilliant and only human. You have so much to give and the lows in life make the highs.

Reply 6

Helpmeplesse

Everything youre saying relates to me so this is very interesting. I started at 11 when i realized that i could orgasim. my voice deepend at 12, i had facial hair at 15, my hair was thinning by 16 and now at 23 im damn near bald at the top. I got picked on in school for looking old for a teenager and being a nobody(no personality, known but unknown). AND AT 23 people joke on me saying i look 35 nd never had a real girlfriend that wanted meFor a long time i didnt have friends and was antisocial, struggled with girls and didnt know myself. I noticed that and tried to change but i havent, i still masturbate every single day. I have friends and close famiy and they are the only ones that can keep me away from it but sometimes i do sneaky **** and find ways. Its depressing and always have been. I have had sex with about 15(2015-2020) women and thats only because after my 1st time i gained a confidence that soon left.every now and then i do find a woman but i never keep them.