Physically attracted but concerned about other oddities

If it's someone you're interested in, get to know them. That way you can learn more about them and whether you personally would be comfortable with her. The things you describes are certainly quirks, but not rare ones, and I'd never recommend writing someone off completely, especially based on as little as you described. Get to know them more and see if you're comfortable with her.

Just pull her

Not my style. I prefer to take things slowly. Attraction usually takes several weeks for me to notice because it sets in very slowly.

I've spent enough time with her recently that people think we're dating. But we're not. And she is certainly on the quiet side, which doesn't help as i'm also on the quiet side. However, once we start talking (and we both have time), the conversations flows fairly naturally.

It will probably get less awkward with time then Don't think about it too hard, just do whatever feels right. If you want to ask her out, ask her out. If not, don't worry too much. Honestly it's pretty hard to judge whether two people are "right for each other" based on talking to them over the internet, but it doesn't sound like there would be huge problems between you two; "opposites attract" isn't always true, and two quiet people can get along well.

You say there won't be huge problems. But what could become an issue ?

It's less that I feel there would be a problem, and more that I can't just predict things. I wouldn't want to ever say that I reckon there will be no problems, and it largely comes down to who the both of you are, the situation, and things outside of anyone's control. The point I wanted to make is that, based on what I've heard, it sounds like it might go pretty smoothly. Each situation has its own problems, i.e. since you're both quiet people, maybe saying that you like her could be awkward, but overall, just try your best, be a nice person, and see what happens.

"She has occasional random outbursts of frustration (gets very easily overwhelmed). She has relatively low emotional maturity compared to most of my peers (but not significantly less) and the one she was very clear about is that she does not like physical touch. AT ALL."

I prefer women that have predictable emotional outbursts, a reasonable level of emotional maturity and like touching and being touched by their romantic partners.

What are your thoughts on this Aayush?


It's sometimes tempting to go for the first person that will have you, even though in the medium to long term you'd be better off holding out for someone more aligned to your tastes.

Being attracted to intelligent people is great, but I don't think intelligence is enough. Other qualities are required.

And one thing about intelligence is you can often get the impression that someone is intelligent, but then they take some form of intelligence test and don't do well in it. Meaning that they were pretentious without having the actual intelligence to back it up.
You can also meet people that you'd think are thick as a brick, but as you get to know them, or if they take an intelligence test, turn out to be highly intelligent.

And you get some people that are intelligent and lack common sense or people skills. And some people that are intelligent with good people skills and a large amount of common sense.