So my parents (sri lankan tamils) were always against the idea of me moving out, so when i applied on ucas, i put 3 unis in london and then two out of london. Due to some circumstances, i would not be able to go to the uni i wanted to in london (as i dont think i'll get the requirements and depression), but i have an unconditional (thank god) to one outside of london which is quite good, and not too far.
They seemed to have gotten along with the idea, until today when my mum says she doesnt want me to move out, because she's scared that men (like professors and male students) could do something to me.. and this came along because her friend was telling her about that as well as the news articles she's been reading. It's only this year she found out that a majority of my friends and other girls drink, so i guess she's worried i'll be influenced (i dont drink). she also said my dad doesnt want me to move, because all of his co-worker's daughter's go to unis in london, and he feels ashamed ?? that i wont be. I guess that means i'm not 'proper'-codeword for a rebel and whore. I told my mum that im not stupid and i'll always be on the lookout for danger (i usually am anyways), plus i have two of my friends coming w me to the same uni. however one of those friends (also tamil) drink, so she really doesnt want me to hang around her. what she doesnt understand is that most girls drink- even the ones she thought would not.
i love my parents and i dont want to upset them.. and i dont know how to convince them that it'll be ok..
man i hate being a daughter of tamil parents- it would be so much easier being a guy cos then none of this cultural stuff affects you. being a girl means you get judged for moving out for uni, get judged for how you dress, get judged for the way you are, get judged for a lot of things. not that this doesnt apply to tamil guys as well, but i feel like it's a thousand times more scrutinised when it comes to tamil girls