Is it normal to be a virgin at age 20?

sex changes your body. if you have sex while you are still developing, it screws with your hormones and biology and your body doesn't develop as healthy as some one who does not practices sex. sex screws with your mental processes as well. doctors and people will tell you that sex is not harmful and can be healthy. do not believe it. it's a LIE.

people you trust will even go as far as telling you that it is good for you. people WILL lead you the wrong way but few will give you good advice. you have friends and family but do not forget that people are always competing with each other on some level. every body WANTS to win in life. professional athletes do not practice sex when they are in the middle of their competitive seasons. why? because is reducing their chances of winning.

sex can put you into a state of depression. it messes with your short term memory and concentration so you cant study and you end up losing interest in school and studies. trust me it can cause hovoc. acne, rapid aging, and an under developed physiq are just a few. it can also cause serious psychological issues. a lot of girls who self harm in school do it because they are being sexually abused by men who only care about having sex and treat girls like meat. these girls experience a change in body and brain chemistry. they are too young to understand what is happening to them and they blame themselves. if you want to win in life, practice moderation in absolutely everything you do.

if you want to be perfect: do not drink, do not do drugs, do not over indulge, do not have sex. this is the lifestyle that leads to excellent health; mind and body. that is the ideal. of coarse one wants to enjoy the pleasures life has to offer. but everyone is competing. those who sacrifice more, have more to gain in the end.another thing to consider is that the first time you have sex, something in your sexual reproductive system switches on and you need to have it on a repeating basis. this can be dangerous if you can not control it.

if you have never had sex before, you do not desire it physically (maybe only for peer pressure). physical desire can be horrible and distracting. for some people that leads to a vicious cycle.

people in the upper classes know about this. that is why they are on a continual campaign to sexualize people at a younger age. It is to keep the masses inferior and less intelligent.trust me, too much sex and/or masturbation can ruin people.

Ah. I feel embarrassed because...

Today I met up with sixth form friends and whenever they ask me about uni because I moved out far from home I get comments such as

“How high is your body count”
“You must be getting lots of action”.

Truth is that I am a virgin. Today I accidentally blurted out that I didn’t get any action last year because their question was direct. I felt pretty embarrassed.

I am not religious or waiting for marriage. It’s just that I don’t enjoy clubbing and last year in university I had bigger issues such as a literal eating disorder and constantly feeling worthless. Also like I said clubbing just doesn’t work for me and tbh I wouldn’t want to pull under the influence of alcohol anyway.

Any tips for next year?

I'm sorry but this is total b***ocks. Are you aware that it is only in the last 100 or so years that westerners have had the luxury of not having to have kids at age 14? Are you aware that in most parts of the world it is NORMAL for 14 year olds to have children because that's all they can do because life expectancy is so low? And are you aware that sex is NECESSARY for human reproduction? How then can it be inherently bad for you?

Don't get me wrong - I'm all for people not having sex till later in life (18) and in this country I'm glad the age of consent is 16 minimum personally I think it should be pushed to 17 but obviously that's never going to happen. But that doesn't contradict my first paragraph sex cannot be inherently bad for you.

You're talking cr*p bro, Christmas is over - lay off the sherry.

I'm 20 and a girl. I haven't slept with anyone, not because I haven't been in situations where I could have, but honestly I've never felt comfortable enough or valued enough by the other person. I've struggled with body image issues, so exposing myself to someone else makes me feel very vulnerable.

Sometimes I feel pathetic that I'm still a virgin but I'm just praying the right guy comes along soon, I just find a lot of guys want short term fun, and I'm not sure I can deal with that, as for me I think sex has a kind of emotional attachment as well.

it's curious that you say you have "body issues". most mature men are not too concerned. what they look for is some one who appears healthy in body and mind. men have slightly different tastes and ideas of how a healthy person should appear. remember you inherit your looks from your parents. they found each other. so there is someone out there who will find you. it's not something that should bother you too much. is it serious? maybe, you could be more open about it early in your relationships.

just unhappy with how I look is what I mean, plus I'm not an overly confident person anyway. The people I have been with before, I couldn't really talk to them about it, which is why I guess the relationships fell apart anyway. I've been with multiple guys who've said I'm only fun when I'm drunk, and they don't like how shy/quiet I am sober- which really wrecked me even more on top of that, but I have managed to work through that now. I guess the main thing is I really struggle trusting people, and get scared to open up, incase it gets twisted back on me.

just want to say thank you tho, you've made some v helpful points