Ok so I am gay (male) but am a member of an extremely conservative religion and ethnicity. This means I never really grew up around any other gay people, and the only lgbt members I have known were girls. I am going to university in the coming year, and so will be open to new experiences and other things, however my “gaydar” as many call it is completely useless.
This doesn’t help that I am the complete opposite of what many perceive to be the gay stereotype. I am also a lesser known ethnicity when it comes to the UK dating scene so I feel I will have more trouble with it.
I have no idea what to signs to look for in another guy to notice if he’s gay. I have had literally ZeRo experiences with guys in a romantic way, I’ve had way more interactions with girls but I know that I’m attracted to guys. When I talk to a guy, we always end up becoming friends, if I have ever had a guy flirt with me, my personality probably diverged the conversation. I am still really uncomfortable with the fact that I like guys, however I am getting used to it. It doesn’t help that I am automatically put off by flamboyant personalities, because that instantly makes it much harder. I don’t know any gay people I can talk to about this stuff, so I am asking here.
How do I go about meeting other gay guys and getting more involved with the lgbt community? Is it easier in university?
I probably sound really stupid but this is the first time I actually ask about this kind of stuff.