dad accuses me of stealing

i'm 14 years old and i can't really save up as my parents don't give me money. they're in really bad debt. my dad bets away all his money on those race horses. he can't even pay the mortgage anymore. my mum has borrowed thousands of pounds from my friends parents and its so embarassing and makes me feel horrible and angry. everytime i confront my dad about the situation he just tells me that there are so many bills that he has to pay my school shoes are ripped and i feel so guilty about asking my parents for shoes as they both hate it when i ask for money. when i do so, my mum just shoves her bank balance into my face and starts crying. i haven't had a desk for 3 years to study on and i share a room with my parents and my two siblings. my mum doesn't make breakfast for me and i go into school feeling dizzy and extremely hungry. my mum also never bothered to teach me how to brush my teeth and make it a habit and i ended up with black stained teeth and was bullied throughout primary school. both my parents always tell me how they wish i was never born and that they wish they had someone like my cousin (she's perfect) as a daughter ... im so sick of my life

Not being funny, but if this isn't actually a troll/attention-seeking, you should get in contact with social services. That sounds terrible.

EDIT: I bring up the possibility that this is a troll/attention-seeking because one of the last posts is written in italics for some reason, which screams attention-seeking to me. Like I say, if this is actually going on, you definitely should contact social services or even tell your school about your situation. As you are a minor they have a legal responsibility to contact social services or even the police for you if you report your situation to them.

so my dad had £20 on this shelf looking thing yesterday and the next morning he wakes me up and starts yelling that i give his 20 back. my mum is in the same room btw and wakes up and starts interrogating me too. the thing is i didn't steal the money. i think my mum blames me because i used to take money from them a long time ago (small amounts) but i stopped completely so i could regain my trust with them. normally when my dads money goes missing my mum gives it back out of her own money which makes me so guilty but also suspicious because i think my dad set the £20 there and is blaming my mum to get an extra £20 as well. this has really upset me and my mum said that i always was a thief and that i cannot be trusted + way more hurtful stuff. i'm so upset as i didn't steal anything. i'm confident my dad lied to get money out of my mum for his gambling habit. what should i do?

Before you take any rash action, take a moment to think through it with a rational mind. People often say things that they don't mean when they're frustrated or angry. I'm not defending them and saying that their behavior towards you is right, because it's not, but you need to take into perspective that your parents, as you mentioned, are going through a serious financial crisis and so anything related to money can trigger them at this point. Or are they always this toxic and unaffectionate? If that's the case then you need to look for some external support.

You said that you have two more siblings that live with you, have you asked them if they have seen the £20 note?

Some schools offer free lunch meals to students whose parents have a low income, ask them if you can apply for it.

Before you take any rash action, take a moment to think through it with a rational mind. People often say things that they don't mean when they're frustrated or angry. I'm not defending them and saying that their behavior towards you is right, because it's not, but you need to take into perspective that your parents, as you mentioned, are going through a serious financial crisis and so anything related to money can trigger them at this point. Or are they always this toxic and unaffectionate? If that's the case then you need to look for some external support.

You said that you have two more siblings that live with you, have you asked them if they have seen the £20 note?

Some schools offer free lunch meals to students whose parents have a low income, ask them if you can apply for it.

If they are still gambling money away while in that much debt then they aren’t doing anything to help their situation. If this has been going on for years, which OP has said, then there is no excuse for their behaviour.

I would get away from them as quickly as possible.

when my dad comes home i'm going to try to explain and confront him about everything. he will probably beat me but i don't care anymore

Sounds like it’s a regular thing that your dad loses money.....

no. my parents act like we are a perfect family to all the neighbours. and my parents don't have friends since they're psychopaths