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Do I tell my crush I like him?

I'm a guy, and I'm bi. I have no idea if he's into guys or girls. He's never really talked about either in the few years we've known eachother. We've become really good friends over the last year and I'm crushing on him pretty hard. He's probably way out of my league, but we get on really well and are super comfortable with eachother. I don't think he knows I like him, and I don't even really think he likes me. I don't know if I should tell him or not. I have no real indication that he likes me. In fact I'd say it's probably quite unlikely, as most people are straight. I do feel really guilty knowing that I like him and haven't told him, though. I wanna tell him, but I'm not sure if it's worth it. I don't think I really have much to gain from it, and I have a lot to lose. He's a really great guy and would probably be really nice about it, but I know it would hurt so bad knowing he didn't feel the same. What should I do?

Reply 1

nathan1403

Does he know you're bi? If not, tell him about that first, and he might say something like 'oh, me too' or 'glad you said that, I'm gay'

Reply 2

croker99

YES! Always do, you never know what will hapen

Reply 3

ZakM73

Life's too short to fear rejection, just do it.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Original post by nathan1403

Does he know you're bi? If not, tell him about that first, and he might say something like 'oh, me too' or 'glad you said that, I'm gay'

Thanks that's a really good idea!

Reply 5

nathan1403

Original post by Anonymous

Thanks that's a really good idea!

Np, let us know how it goes!

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Original post by nathan1403

Np, let us know how it goes!

Will do 😅

Reply 7

MeveC

Yeah, as someone else has said. I can only suggest subtly expressing your sexual preferences- whether it is talking about a specific celebrity your into /passerby and if he acts confused or laughs like he doesn't take it seriously, be like "I am bi, you know that right?". Very subtle and casual rather than a 'coming out' type of situation with your mate, which I am sure you are probably not wanting to make a whole label of everything and emphasise your sexuality in a small conversation. You know what I mean? Randomly letting him know your bi, mid conversation could be nerve wracking and awkward. I think its old school having to let your friends know your sexuality in such a formal way in case they, i don't know, aren't into it or end up not liking you anymore (ugh). Best to be natural and informal because this is who you are and there is no need to label yourself to him because at the end of the day, he is a friend.

Casually make your preferences apparent and see where the conversation leads! In this way, if he is a good straight friend, you've got a great person in your circle! Or if he is on the spectrum... give it some time now that both of you are open! No need to jump in and get excited, this is your chance to maybe start flirting or making your attraction apparent. Whether it is a straight crush or a crush with someone on the spectrum, a good amount of time is always best to really be sure that you don't just reeaally get along with your friend and THINK you have a crush on them or if you yourself are genuine with your feelings. Trust me, I thought I liked a good friend of mine, but once we started talking for a while in a romantic environment after confessing- eeek! Just turns out we just get along well... but was not feeling it romantically.

1. Make your sexuality known
2. Find out his opinion/his sexual preference
3. If he is straight- no worries! You still have a great friend
/ If he is on the spectrum - leave it at that (for now)
4. Following the latter point, make your attraction known, build up your affection or flirting
5. Confess when you feel right! It is always great to let your feelings out- but be prepared, confessing to friends can be hard !

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

So we were talking today and he said he didn't really have any crushes at the moment.. so I guess we can just stay friends lol. Yet another crush I'll never tell anyone about 😂