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    OP, im so very sorry for what has happened, the others are right; you should talk to someone cause being alone in this will be harder.

    Agin i agree with what has been said, you do what you feel is best for YOU and start getting advice by confirming everything with your doctor.

    Best of luck x
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    Randdom's advice is brilliant.

    Also, you say you aren't ready to be a mum. The question you should ask yourself is: What would have to be different in my life for me to be ready? Once you have a few answers to that question you can start figuring out what would be the best course of action. This could include some counselling, looking at practicalities, consulting someone within your religion, discussing with your family etc.

    You don't need to go through this alone. Whatever you do, make sure you have some support. This isn't a punishment for what happened to you.

    Have you thought about going to the police?
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    She is very very unlikely to be pregnant. Very unlikely. I think (don't count me on this) that the morning after pill can make you sick as a side effect, and if the pharmacist said it was fine then she really should be ok. Also the morning after pill really can mess with periods so if she's late, it's much more likely due to the pill than her being pregnant.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    hey...I was just wondering how any of you found out you were pregnant? Well, what made you get the test..I'm worried as my period is really late, I'm used to a 24-26 day cycle but it's about a week late now and my boobs are really achey and my nipples are incredibly sensitive and have been for a couple of weeks. But thing is, I always use condoms and I know chances are really slim of getting pregnant by semen covered fingers (sorry to be crude!)...
    Hey...I tested when I was a week late, sore boobs and darker nipples :o: plus I needed to wee all the time and felt nauseous in the mornings. Sounds like a slim chance of you being pregnant but if you're late already it's best to test now.
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    I was pregnant once and i had an abortion, my bf was religious and told me all about religion afterwards. If i was religious whilst i was pregnant i think i would of most likely kept it.
    Im not saying to not get rid, but make ur decision carefully u might regret having an abortion or adopting as it would feel weird living not knowing where you baby is.
    I know this is an awkward situation, but children are a gift from god, in light of this situation an abortion may not be seen as a sin due to the circumstances.
    If your worried about finance remember God will sustain u. Just keep on believing.
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    this is an awful situation to be in, and i think that you need to think about the quality of life your child would have. you say you are only nineteen and due to your deep faith would your parents support you? i know the emotional side of this is so important but you need to think about how you would cope and whether the child would have a good life. it is not fair to bring a child into a world where it cannot be provided for. and also, it has been heard of that rape victims can resent their children because they are a constant reminded. at the end of the day its whether you believe that you are emotionally and practically ready for a child, for both your sakes.
    i hope everything works out for you and remember whatever you do is your decision. no one on an internet forum can make that for you. i think deep down you know what you will do. even if you dont know it yet.
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    I can't imagine being in your situation, but if I was I would probably react in exactly the same way you have with regards to not wanting to get rid of it but not feeling able to keep it. Remember that adoption is a choice too, which would mean you wouldn't have to kill the baby and it could be brought up by people who really want a child and can give it everything it needs. Any option you choose is going to be difficult, but I hope you sort things out and are happy with your final decision.

    xxx
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    What do you plan on doing with your life? I think you've pretty much decided that you want to keep the child and the main problem you're seeing (other than obviously who the father is and how it happened) is your age. I think if you were planning on going to university, for example, then it's a harder decision than if this is not a road you wanted to go down. I know it may seem like a nightmare atm but there are plenty of single mums out there who give birth much younger and they manage. You are stronger than you think you are. I would go to the doctor first to confirm for sure if you are pregnant and then don't rush your decision, take some time to think about it and talk it through with others first.

    xx
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    Ok, all I want is just a little reassurance really to stop me being so worriedand paranoid. I know the chances are slim, but I've been looking online and having brown spotting can be a sign of pregnancy...

    I'm on the pill, I've never missed a pill and am pretty certain that I haven't been ill or anything or taken any medicine that can affect it... Also, we use condoms as well - although not completely like they're supposed to be used, we normally start to have sex without one and then half way through my boyfriend will pull out and put one on. I've never known the condom to break either.

    My last 2 pill packets I took straight after each other, infact it's what I do regularly so I only have a period every 6 weeks. But this time I started spotting, and having cramps a week or so before my due "break". Then when I had my break, I had a shorter, lighter period with mostly just brown blood (sorry for the detail...) so light that I couldn't use tampons..

    My boyfriend says I'm being ridiculous, and even part me knows I'm worrying over something very unlikely, but like I said, I just wouldn't mind some reassurance that I'll be fine.
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    thanks for information. just a little worried haha. im in uni and we've only been going out a month, so a lil kid isnt what either of us need really lol.

    i think i need condoms which are wider as i had problems getting the normal sized one on as it was tight as hell and stopping me from being fully erect
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    You need larger condoms, mates ones are larger (or so the boyfriend says anyway) and cheaper than durex. He used to have the problem of it rolling back again becuase it was too tight, and a nasty red ring around his penis... not nice!
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    The brown blood doesn't sound good to me. I'm no doctor, and I'm certainly no woman, but I have a very bad "feeling" about this. My advice would be to get a pregnancy test ASAP, and immediately contact your GP. Alternatively, you can contact NHS24 if you want peace of mind straight away, assuming you do get peace of mind, that is. I can't say what your prognosis will be.

    Good luck :top:
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    heard that trojan are wider, will try mates too.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Ok, all I want is just a little reassurance really to stop me being so worriedand paranoid. I know the chances are slim, but I've been looking online and having brown spotting can be a sign of pregnancy...

    I'm on the pill, I've never missed a pill and am pretty certain that I haven't been ill or anything or taken any medicine that can affect it... Also, we use condoms as well - although not completely like they're supposed to be used, we normally start to have sex without one and then half way through my boyfriend will pull out and put one on. I've never known the condom to break either.

    My last 2 pill packets I took straight after each other, infact it's what I do regularly so I only have a period every 6 weeks. But this time I started spotting, and having cramps a week or so before my due "break". Then when I had my break, I had a shorter, lighter period with mostly just brown blood (sorry for the detail...) so light that I couldn't use tampons..

    My boyfriend says I'm being ridiculous, and even part me knows I'm worrying over something very unlikely, but like I said, I just wouldn't mind some reassurance that I'll be fine.
    Hmmm.. I don't think it's likely you're pregnant but stranger things have happened. I advise you to take a test just to ease your mind though

    (well done for using proper protection though )
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    (Original post by Keysersoze311)
    The brown blood doesn't sound good to me. I'm no doctor, and I'm certainly no woman, but I have a very bad "feeling" about this. My advice would be to get a pregnancy test ASAP, and immediately contact your GP. Alternatively, you can contact NHS24 if you want peace of mind straight away, assuming you do get peace of mind, that is. I can't say what your prognosis will be.

    Good luck :top:


    It's perfectly normal, I've had it several times... all down to the pill.


    OP, spotting due to pregnancy is incredibly rare. The internet makes out like it's common. I've yet to hear of anyone it'sactually happened to. Did you miss even one pill or take it a bit late? If I miss one around the end of the pack it results in exactly what you're describing, misnus the cramping. Though, I don't usually get cramps on it.
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    I don't think spotting happens that often but maybe take a test just in case? good luck x
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    I used to get spotting occasionally when I ran packs together, and this "implantation bleeding" everyone worries about is actually very rare. You've done everything right contraception-wise, so there's no reason to think you would be pregnant. The only way to relieve your paranoia is to do a test though - but I'm saying that for your peace of mind, not because I think it might be positive!
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    Sorry to hear about what you are going through OP :hugs:

    You definitely need to get to the Doctors ASAP to confirm the pregnancy.
    You should also seek some advice, from anyone from the Doctor, to a family member, friend or trained professional.

    Also, regarding the rape, contact the police if you want to press charges.

    You seem to have an awful lot on your plate. Try and speak to people, you can't get through this on your own. Stay strong and I hope things turn out okay. :console:
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    I took the pill for a year and often ran packets together if my period was going to be a conveniant times. We never once used a condom (we were both tested and fine) and I never got pregnant. It is VERY rare to get pregnant on the pill, its a very effective contraceptive without condoms. The majority of people who do get pregnant whilst taking the pill have because they have missed a few pills or have taken anti biotics etc. Im pretty sure your not pregnant but if you really want to then take a test just to put your mind to rest.
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    It might be a good idea for your girlfriend to go to the family planning clinic too since if you guys are going to be regularly having sex she might want a more permanent type of contraceptive such as the pill.
    You might also want to both go to get an STI test???
 
 
 
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