Role reversal: do you girls or guys like to be the dominant partner?
Greetings.
I am a guy. I have some questions for women mainly. ( guys opinions are wanted too) Firstly, I would like to know what is the ideal size or rather girth of a guy manhood for you girls? Are you concerned by the intimate, emotional connection much more than the manhood size or is it the opposite? Secondly, what type of dynamic are you looking for in the relationship? I mean, would you like to be the dominant partner in the relationship (meaning taking most of the decision for the welfare of the couple) or are you more in the traditional way meaning being the submissive one ( this question applies to the dynamic in bed too)? I am asking that because I am quite the submissive type. Of course it does not mean that I like to be "disparaged" to say so by any woman ( maybe in bed with some dirty talk). But I can be quite indecisive sometimes; it is one of the reasons why I feel really turned on by mature women who can take the lead in the relationship, even more when in bed. Please men or women, be brutally honest.
I am a guy. I have some questions for women mainly. ( guys opinions are wanted too) Firstly, I would like to know what is the ideal size or rather girth of a guy manhood for you girls? Are you concerned by the intimate, emotional connection much more than the manhood size or is it the opposite? Secondly, what type of dynamic are you looking for in the relationship? I mean, would you like to be the dominant partner in the relationship (meaning taking most of the decision for the welfare of the couple) or are you more in the traditional way meaning being the submissive one ( this question applies to the dynamic in bed too)? I am asking that because I am quite the submissive type. Of course it does not mean that I like to be "disparaged" to say so by any woman ( maybe in bed with some dirty talk). But I can be quite indecisive sometimes; it is one of the reasons why I feel really turned on by mature women who can take the lead in the relationship, even more when in bed. Please men or women, be brutally honest.
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1) Okay not too thick but can’t be thin
2) In a relationship I genuinely wouldn’t care on the size but it’s more about if they have a good stroke game but emotional connection is far more important.
3) mainly submissive but occasionally dominant ( but I am willing to do what they want as long as they are doing the same for me).
2) In a relationship I genuinely wouldn’t care on the size but it’s more about if they have a good stroke game but emotional connection is far more important.
3) mainly submissive but occasionally dominant ( but I am willing to do what they want as long as they are doing the same for me).
Female here.
1) Different women have different preferences with regards to size. I prefer one that isn't going to hurt me lol
2) Emotional connection is more important, yes. Though to me, that simply means that I prefer it that a guy cares about me too during sex and doesn't continue to do something because it feels good to him when it is clearly hurting me
3) I prefer being in charge (though complete indecisiveness would be a turn off). That applies to sex too.
1) Different women have different preferences with regards to size. I prefer one that isn't going to hurt me lol
2) Emotional connection is more important, yes. Though to me, that simply means that I prefer it that a guy cares about me too during sex and doesn't continue to do something because it feels good to him when it is clearly hurting me
3) I prefer being in charge (though complete indecisiveness would be a turn off). That applies to sex too.
1. An average size would be nice tbh.
2. Yes way way more important to me is how the guy treats me. if he is kind, respectful and loving to me consistently then I could not care less about the size of his penis. As well as the connection being important.
3. I think it's nice being 60 40, I like the guy initiating the talking and dates mostly, but it's important to feel I have some control over the relationship too otherwise I feel out of control in my life and it's dangerous for one partner to have the power to make the relationship good or make it bad. As well as it's both people's responsibility to maintain the relationship and put effort in and comnunciate.
4. Once trust has been built I'm happy for a guy to be naturally dominant in bed but not violent or pornsick behaviour. I'm also happy to be the dominant one sometimes but I like the guy initiating so that I know he is sexually attracted to me. again a balance is probably nice and sometimes neither person needs to be dominant you can be equals and have fun or make love.
Indecision idm in some instances but not indecision about the relationship. ie personal indecision but be decisive enough about being with me and liking me
2. Yes way way more important to me is how the guy treats me. if he is kind, respectful and loving to me consistently then I could not care less about the size of his penis. As well as the connection being important.
3. I think it's nice being 60 40, I like the guy initiating the talking and dates mostly, but it's important to feel I have some control over the relationship too otherwise I feel out of control in my life and it's dangerous for one partner to have the power to make the relationship good or make it bad. As well as it's both people's responsibility to maintain the relationship and put effort in and comnunciate.
4. Once trust has been built I'm happy for a guy to be naturally dominant in bed but not violent or pornsick behaviour. I'm also happy to be the dominant one sometimes but I like the guy initiating so that I know he is sexually attracted to me. again a balance is probably nice and sometimes neither person needs to be dominant you can be equals and have fun or make love.
Indecision idm in some instances but not indecision about the relationship. ie personal indecision but be decisive enough about being with me and liking me
Original post by Britannia006
Greetings.
I am a guy. I have some questions for women mainly. ( guys opinions are wanted too) Firstly, I would like to know what is the ideal size or rather girth of a guy manhood for you girls? Are you concerned by the intimate, emotional connection much more than the manhood size or is it the opposite? Secondly, what type of dynamic are you looking for in the relationship? I mean, would you like to be the dominant partner in the relationship (meaning taking most of the decision for the welfare of the couple) or are you more in the traditional way meaning being the submissive one ( this question applies to the dynamic in bed too)? I am asking that because I am quite the submissive type. Of course it does not mean that I like to be "disparaged" to say so by any woman ( maybe in bed with some dirty talk). But I can be quite indecisive sometimes; it is one of the reasons why I feel really turned on by mature women who can take the lead in the relationship, even more when in bed. Please men or women, be brutally honest.
I am a guy. I have some questions for women mainly. ( guys opinions are wanted too) Firstly, I would like to know what is the ideal size or rather girth of a guy manhood for you girls? Are you concerned by the intimate, emotional connection much more than the manhood size or is it the opposite? Secondly, what type of dynamic are you looking for in the relationship? I mean, would you like to be the dominant partner in the relationship (meaning taking most of the decision for the welfare of the couple) or are you more in the traditional way meaning being the submissive one ( this question applies to the dynamic in bed too)? I am asking that because I am quite the submissive type. Of course it does not mean that I like to be "disparaged" to say so by any woman ( maybe in bed with some dirty talk). But I can be quite indecisive sometimes; it is one of the reasons why I feel really turned on by mature women who can take the lead in the relationship, even more when in bed. Please men or women, be brutally honest.
—I don’t 100% know yet but I think I’d prefer a guy that knows what he’s doing over him being a big girth or length.
—Id be much more concerned over the intimate side of things hence why I’m still in the position I’m in lol. I could never do the classic “hit and run”.
—I’d say for me it’s a give and take. I’d like a guy who makes me feel feminine like being firm with me in speaking or in discussions but at the same time I’m a strong minded woman and I won’t accept a man who feels like he controls me and I should operate in a woman’s place. I make my own decisions but will of course accept opinions. So maybe someone more submissive then dominant but not by much. In the bedroom, again I don’t know but I suspect I’d want someone who’s more submissive who’ll listen to me but not overly so either. Like the degrading, submissive bdsm etc. I wouldn’t mind being submissive however I’d probably be a brat 😂
Hmm, interesting. Didn't realise I was so unusual in my preference to be dominant...
Original post by Anonymous
Hmm, interesting. Didn't realise I was so unusual in my preference to be dominant...
Lol definitely not unusual. There’s many different active and healthy dynamics out there that work for different people.
Original post by Anonymous
1) Okay not too thick but can’t be thin
2) In a relationship I genuinely wouldn’t care on the size but it’s more about if they have a good stroke game but emotional connection is far more important.
3) mainly submissive but occasionally dominant ( but I am willing to do what they want as long as they are doing the same for me).
2) In a relationship I genuinely wouldn’t care on the size but it’s more about if they have a good stroke game but emotional connection is far more important.
3) mainly submissive but occasionally dominant ( but I am willing to do what they want as long as they are doing the same for me).
1- ouch! Then I might be a no no for you there i am quite thin long 😅
2- euh I do not really know what a stroke game is. Does it mean how he use his fingers? ( I am a French native😅) yes I really need to feel emotionally connected to be with someone too
3-how sweet. Yes you are right it really is important to have a giving-receiving dynamic in any relationship to make it work.
Thank you so much for your reply sweety
Original post by Anonymous
Female here.
1) Different women have different preferences with regards to size. I prefer one that isn't going to hurt me lol
2) Emotional connection is more important, yes. Though to me, that simply means that I prefer it that a guy cares about me too during sex and doesn't continue to do something because it feels good to him when it is clearly hurting me
3) I prefer being in charge (though complete indecisiveness would be a turn off). That applies to sex too.
1) Different women have different preferences with regards to size. I prefer one that isn't going to hurt me lol
2) Emotional connection is more important, yes. Though to me, that simply means that I prefer it that a guy cares about me too during sex and doesn't continue to do something because it feels good to him when it is clearly hurting me
3) I prefer being in charge (though complete indecisiveness would be a turn off). That applies to sex too.
1- you are right. Lmao wow yes something that will not hurt you I get, you seem to me not to be concerned so much about the size and girth. But I have a concern; when you say something that doesn't hurt, is it that for some women hitting the cervix can be painful while for others it is pleasurable or is it another part that when hit is painful for some of you?
2- yes you are right. It is really important for a guy to be able to read his woman body language during sex and know that he has to stop when he is hurting her. Men need to understand that sex has not been created only for them to be satisfied.
3- I love women who are not afraid to be in charge. The thing is not that I am completely indecisive. I know what I want in my life. It is just that I feel like there areas in my life that I do not really know how to handle. So I feel like I need a very strong woman by my side to help me doing it. A woman I will always there for and whom will always be there for me. ( I am also turned on by woman being on top in bed🙈)
Thank you so much for your reply.😊
Original post by Anonymous
1. An average size would be nice tbh.
2. Yes way way more important to me is how the guy treats me. if he is kind, respectful and loving to me consistently then I could not care less about the size of his penis. As well as the connection being important.
3. I think it's nice being 60 40, I like the guy initiating the talking and dates mostly, but it's important to feel I have some control over the relationship too otherwise I feel out of control in my life and it's dangerous for one partner to have the power to make the relationship good or make it bad. As well as it's both people's responsibility to maintain the relationship and put effort in and comnunciate.
4. Once trust has been built I'm happy for a guy to be naturally dominant in bed but not violent or pornsick behaviour. I'm also happy to be the dominant one sometimes but I like the guy initiating so that I know he is sexually attracted to me. again a balance is probably nice and sometimes neither person needs to be dominant you can be equals and have fun or make love.
Indecision idm in some instances but not indecision about the relationship. ie personal indecision but be decisive enough about being with me and liking me
2. Yes way way more important to me is how the guy treats me. if he is kind, respectful and loving to me consistently then I could not care less about the size of his penis. As well as the connection being important.
3. I think it's nice being 60 40, I like the guy initiating the talking and dates mostly, but it's important to feel I have some control over the relationship too otherwise I feel out of control in my life and it's dangerous for one partner to have the power to make the relationship good or make it bad. As well as it's both people's responsibility to maintain the relationship and put effort in and comnunciate.
4. Once trust has been built I'm happy for a guy to be naturally dominant in bed but not violent or pornsick behaviour. I'm also happy to be the dominant one sometimes but I like the guy initiating so that I know he is sexually attracted to me. again a balance is probably nice and sometimes neither person needs to be dominant you can be equals and have fun or make love.
Indecision idm in some instances but not indecision about the relationship. ie personal indecision but be decisive enough about being with me and liking me
1- then sorry for asking it but what would the ideal average for you😅
2- ow I could not agree more with you. How the partner treats you, how it makes you feel, and the emotional connection are way so important to feel in love with someone.
3- yes of course. Unfortunately I am not the initiator type... not because I do not want but I need to make that she really really love me to be able to open myself to her and initiate from time to time. Oh yes, what I mean by dominant submissive is not one having total control over the other. But you know I mean like there will be a partner who will a bit like a leader while the other is more like a follower (there cannot be two captains) but of course each part must equal for decisions making.
4- yes you are right. Finding a balance in bed is important. Yeah some of us guys can sometimes be really pornsick. Not my case because my only goal in bed will be pleasuring my future partner as much as possible before myself. I have always thought things must be like that.
Thank you for replying.
Original post by Second_Beauty
—I don’t 100% know yet but I think I’d prefer a guy that knows what he’s doing over him being a big girth or length.
—Id be much more concerned over the intimate side of things hence why I’m still in the position I’m in lol. I could never do the classic “hit and run”.
—I’d say for me it’s a give and take. I’d like a guy who makes me feel feminine like being firm with me in speaking or in discussions but at the same time I’m a strong minded woman and I won’t accept a man who feels like he controls me and I should operate in a woman’s place. I make my own decisions but will of course accept opinions. So maybe someone more submissive then dominant but not by much. In the bedroom, again I don’t know but I suspect I’d want someone who’s more submissive who’ll listen to me but not overly so either. Like the degrading, submissive bdsm etc. I wouldn’t mind being submissive however I’d probably be a brat 😂
—Id be much more concerned over the intimate side of things hence why I’m still in the position I’m in lol. I could never do the classic “hit and run”.
—I’d say for me it’s a give and take. I’d like a guy who makes me feel feminine like being firm with me in speaking or in discussions but at the same time I’m a strong minded woman and I won’t accept a man who feels like he controls me and I should operate in a woman’s place. I make my own decisions but will of course accept opinions. So maybe someone more submissive then dominant but not by much. In the bedroom, again I don’t know but I suspect I’d want someone who’s more submissive who’ll listen to me but not overly so either. Like the degrading, submissive bdsm etc. I wouldn’t mind being submissive however I’d probably be a brat 😂
1- ah thank you then. I suppose with you it is not about the size of the boat but more about the motion.
2- oh yeah you are right. It is really important to understand also that being in a relationship is not about sex only. But being with someone we share our life and intimacy with.
3- yes even a submissive guy need to be firm too. He is a man after. His woman will sometimes need to feel his masculinity so that she can feel feminine. Strong minded women are the best for me. Oh my, then you quite ideal for me. Oh my my, you would really be ideal for me if you are looking for a submissive in bed. Of course for things not get boring, spicing things up by switching roles is important from time to time. 😊🙈
I am not so much into bdsm but I think it could be quite an experience to try it.
😂😂😂 yes the famous bratty type. That could be fun too.
Thank you for your answer.
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Guy
1) ideal size.. aha haa..
2) I prefer a sensual experience
3) equal amounts of control to cater to a neutral level of dominance from both parties
1) ideal size.. aha haa..
2) I prefer a sensual experience
3) equal amounts of control to cater to a neutral level of dominance from both parties
bisexual female here
1. As long as it doesn't hurt
2. Sensual/emotional connection- it needs to be with someone I feel comfortable with-I don't do one night stands
3. I'm a switch so whatever the mood is
1. As long as it doesn't hurt
2. Sensual/emotional connection- it needs to be with someone I feel comfortable with-I don't do one night stands
3. I'm a switch so whatever the mood is
1 ) no, size doesn't matter. As long as i like the person.
2 ) i'm a verse/switch but mostly bottom.
3 ) it dont mtter
2 ) i'm a verse/switch but mostly bottom.
3 ) it dont mtter
Original post by astayuno
Guy
1) ideal size.. aha haa..
2) I prefer a sensual experience
3) equal amounts of control to cater to a neutral level of dominance from both parties
1) ideal size.. aha haa..
2) I prefer a sensual experience
3) equal amounts of control to cater to a neutral level of dominance from both parties
1- 😂😂 okay okay
2-wow okay. But does it matter to have emotional connection too or is it a turn off for you?
3-😆awww yeah you are right that is it
Thank you for your reply
Original post by Vanessa Chuah
1 ) no, size doesn't matter. As long as i like the person.
2 ) i'm a verse/switch but mostly bottom.
3 ) it dont mtter
2 ) i'm a verse/switch but mostly bottom.
3 ) it dont mtter
you seem to be quite the pragmatic one I feel it like a detached answer😅
1- oh okay that should be what matters in fact
2-okay
3-okay
Thank you for replying
Guy here, definitely prefer being submissive! I've always had a thing for having a dominant partner. Possibly my favourite thing to do is to wear a chastity cage, which expresses a great deal of trust with your partner and dramatically enhances foreplay, too. 
Original post by Anonymous
bisexual female here
1. As long as it doesn't hurt
2. Sensual/emotional connection- it needs to be with someone I feel comfortable with-I don't do one night stands
3. I'm a switch so whatever the mood is
1. As long as it doesn't hurt
2. Sensual/emotional connection- it needs to be with someone I feel comfortable with-I don't do one night stands
3. I'm a switch so whatever the mood is
oh my my
Bisexual?
Somtimes I wonder how is it to have a bisexual partner
1-oh okay got it
2- oh my! It is so rare nowadays. People just want to **** and move on.
Happy to see that there is still people who think like me out there😄😊
3-oh my my my, okay then.
I am quite jealous. But why not maybe try to find a bisexual partner one and experience it.
Thank you for your answer
Original post by Britannia006
1- you are right. Lmao wow yes something that will not hurt you I get, you seem to me not to be concerned so much about the size and girth. But I have a concern; when you say something that doesn't hurt, is it that for some women hitting the cervix can be painful while for others it is pleasurable or is it another part that when hit is painful for some of you?
2- yes you are right. It is really important for a guy to be able to read his woman body language during sex and know that he has to stop when he is hurting her. Men need to understand that sex has not been created only for them to be satisfied.
3- I love women who are not afraid to be in charge. The thing is not that I am completely indecisive. I know what I want in my life. It is just that I feel like there areas in my life that I do not really know how to handle. So I feel like I need a very strong woman by my side to help me doing it. A woman I will always there for and whom will always be there for me. ( I am also turned on by woman being on top in bed🙈)
Thank you so much for your reply.😊
2- yes you are right. It is really important for a guy to be able to read his woman body language during sex and know that he has to stop when he is hurting her. Men need to understand that sex has not been created only for them to be satisfied.
3- I love women who are not afraid to be in charge. The thing is not that I am completely indecisive. I know what I want in my life. It is just that I feel like there areas in my life that I do not really know how to handle. So I feel like I need a very strong woman by my side to help me doing it. A woman I will always there for and whom will always be there for me. ( I am also turned on by woman being on top in bed🙈)
Thank you so much for your reply.😊
1) For me, hitting the cervix is painful and certain position that give deep penetration are painful (but I think that might be a problem for all women, idk).
2) I'm glad there are guys who understand this.
3) What kind areas, if you don't mind me asking? I find being on top quite tiring haha. Reverse cowboy feels quite good though.
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