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Should I let continue with him/ Islam

Salam to you all

me and this guy get on really well mashallah and are planning to get married after we finish school so in a few years time but I’m worried if I should end it.
Reason being is that I believe me and him although are very good friends and have been for years I don’t think he’s someone I should marry
This is because me and him see our deen and place our deen very differently, I put my deen first before anything and of course only Allah knows what he does and what’s in his heart but I believe he’s a practicing Muslim or if he prays.
I make duas regularly for Allah to guide his heart closer to Islam but nothings changed yet, Allah knows best.
He has all the best qualities a guy can have but not the most important of all which is his deen so I’m worried.
I know if we do get married this would become a problem so shall I end our friendship/situationship now before we fall in too deep?

Reply 1

urlocalinmate

Yeah, I'd end the "relationship", it's for the best. Your requirements aren't compatible with someone like him, so it'd be difficult for you.

Reply 2

londonmyst

Always trust your gut instinct and listen to what your feelings are telling you. :smile:

You have the right to set your own dealbreakers and only be willing to accept a potential spouse who will be compatible with your lifestyle & future ambitions.
But do remember that if your dealbreakers are far too extensive or take no account of ,

I support interfaith marriage but have a long list of dating dealbreakers.
While two of my female friends are religious fundamentalists and only willing to marry co-religionist guys who have almost identical lifestyles, ambitions and family backgrounds.