I am a brown girl and I went out for food with two of my white friends yesterday. We first went to a restaurant and then one of them suggested that we go to a dessert place which was fine with me.
When we went to the desert place, I found it quite weird how my friends were looking through the menu to find the cheapest thing possible and how they wouldn’t even spend £5 on a nice good quality milkshake.
They both come from decent families and live in good houses, as do I.
they customised their own waffle and decided to only have half seeming as a whole one would be too expensive. I’m not sure if the money was theirs or their parents but they both had cash. (£20). Which surely isn’t enough especially if one of them literally suggested themselves to come to this dessert place.
Meanwhile, I was choosing whatever I wanted because I’ve always had my parents credit card on my phone. My dad always said to me that because I’m a good child and I do my work at home and I’m sensible, he doesn’t mind that I spent £8 on an ice cream sundae and £5 for bubble tea etc.
it just seemed as though them two were implicitly criticising me the whole time because I have ‘daddy’s money’.
I don’t have a part time job (I’m 17) and doing alevels and I’m getting all As and A*s atm.
They were even talking about uni and how they’d have to pay a lot of the rent. When they asked me, I was honest and said my dad paid fully for my sisters, and then they both gave me a dirty look.
It’s not even just outside of school, it happens in school too.
When I queue in the lunch line to get a coffee, my friend will always persuade me to buy a sausage roll solely because she wants it. She’s always like ‘that looks sooo good you should buy it’
I was upfront and said to her: if you want it so much, buy it. And then she just laughed.
I’m not being rude at all because I’ve been to her house and it’s standard. Both of her parents are retired and both siblings are working, so what could the money issue possibly be? Yes, I did buy it for her a few times but then she just kept asking.
When a friend of mine comes around to my house, I’d normally pay for all the food (like say if we got a pizza) because that’s how I’ve been raised. But when I went to her house she made me pay for the pizza she ordered for us?
I find it baffling how different cultures handle money differently.