South Asian men (Muslim ideally): would you marry a med drop-out

Female and not south Asian but I would rather date a happy med school drop out than a miserable and depressed doctor. You have one life - why make yourself miserable for the sake of supposed prestige or other people's opinions? Medicine in this country is heading down the gutter anyway, it can be argued that dropping out is the sensible thing to do...

how does drop out affect how u r as a person if ur a good person have good values, shud mean nothing to ur husband

Not sure south Asians would agree though

I know South Asians who have dropped out of medicine for other careers. Medicine in the UK is just not a prestigious career any more.

I appreciate the encouragement but it is amongst South Asian though particularly parents.
What are your friends who have dropped out doing now?

Pretty much self explanatory title, would you marry a south Asian girl who dropped out of med because she hated it

Why does dropping out of a subject depend on you marrying the person or not seems petty that

I know, but your life should not be dictated by your parents, especially when they may have very little clue about what a career involves (appreciate that can be tricky in some culture, including mine). You got into med school so you clearly have a lot going for you and will be able to do well in another career - dropping out because you hate something is very different to not getting in in the first place (if we are talking prestige).

Some people are in med tech development, one is teaching at a medical school, I think some are in finance.

Perhaps I'm being ignorant to the cultural issues at play here, but this thread is all about whether South Asian men would view you as 'good enough' to marry if you dropped out of medical school. That seems to me to be awfully dismissive of your own self worth. If they wouldn't marry you because you dropped out of med school, why would you want to marry them, even if you stayed in med school? Surely irrespective of the cultural issues, you want to marry someone who prioritises your wellbeing, respects your autonomy in making your own choices, and marries you for who you are?

I would yes that would certainly be ideal, the things is in my culture parent opinion is also quite important in marriage, I'm not sure many parents would agree.
Secondly, marriage is really important to me and I'm worried I'll end up not married at all be sure of this.
Fyi I have already dropped out of med school

South Asian boy, 18.
Ok, I understand what you're worried about.
black tea is right to say that your happiness and wellbeing is paramount but I disagree with her that medicine isn't considered prestigious anymore. Sure, things have changed since the '80s, but most people and definitely most Asians view medicine with great value, and why wouldn't they - it's the ability to save peoples' lives, it's a beautiful thing?

However, you're clearly sure medicine isn't for you, and that's ok - it's not for everyone, and that doesn't make you less smart, if anything you have to be pretty smart to realise it's a good idea to get out of something which isn't for you whilst you can. There's no doubt some Asian parents will question it, but others won't. Plenty of them understand the difficulties with medicine now.

Overall, I think it comes down to what you do now. You've left medicine behind - fine - but what now? You need to find something that does work for you, so you can say 'I dropped out of med school because it wasn't for me but...I've since done xyz and am really happy'.

To answer your question directly, I would have no issue marrying a med school drop out, if she has done something of value since, and if she is happy now in herself. To be totally honest, I'd be grateful that I could see my wife more than 1 hour a day because she's not so exhausted (if she wanted to carry on working).

I hope this helps a bit. Ask anything else you want.

It's not a prestigious or well-paying career in the UK. Have a read about the junior doctor strikes and how much doctors are paid per hour, and tell me whether you would consider that prestigious.

South Asian boy, 18.
Ok, I understand what you're worried about.
black tea is right to say that your happiness and wellbeing is paramount but I disagree with her that medicine isn't considered prestigious anymore. Sure, things have changed since the '80s, but most people and definitely most Asians view medicine with great value, and why wouldn't they - it's the ability to save peoples' lives, it's a beautiful thing?

However, you're clearly sure medicine isn't for you, and that's ok - it's not for everyone, and that doesn't make you less smart, if anything you have to be pretty smart to realise it's a good idea to get out of something which isn't for you whilst you can. There's no doubt some Asian parents will question it, but others won't. Plenty of them understand the difficulties with medicine now.

Overall, I think it comes down to what you do now. You've left medicine behind - fine - but what now? You need to find something that does work for you, so you can say 'I dropped out of med school because it wasn't for me but...I've since done xyz and am really happy'.

To answer your question directly, I would have no issue marrying a med school drop out, if she has done something of value since, and if she is happy now in herself. To be totally honest, I'd be grateful that I could see my wife more than 1 hour a day because she's not so exhausted (if she wanted to carry on working).

I hope this helps a bit. Ask anything else you want.

It's not a prestigious or well-paying career in the UK. Have a read about the junior doctor strikes and how much doctors are paid per hour, and tell me whether you would consider that prestigious.