So now I've sat back and debriefed with myself and my friends I seriously think I was dating someone that may have had NPD or an attachment disorder.
I didn't really spot these red flags because I was caught up in the moment. We have all done it I guess?
She was love-bombing me a lot, especially to make me exclusive within 2.5 weeks after we met. She would say she wanted long-term and eventually kids/marriage but not now, in the future.
She had this need for attention, especially via text and in person, like I had to say Good Morning, Good night and she would send like 20 messages on Instagram and multiple on Whatsapp if I didn't reply sometimes.
She had a lot of deep-down insecurities about herself and would often not want to talk about stuff like the past. I had a look at her social footprint and it looks like she had a long-term relationship which ended recently too, like November/December and sort of may have had a break too.
All of her friends have relationship issues and she would be very controlling in some of the situations we spoke about - I never ever realised what that was all about, especially her work where she no longer has a job as they didn't offer a contract.
She also sees a therapist, but I never dwelved into why.
Before she ended things, we slept with each other and I started to open up more to her. As soon as I did that....
She ended things with me recently, but then tried to manipulate my feelings and would then chase me after she initially backed off. She has since then rang me to get a reaction, and posted stuff on social media to get a reaction from me. Including posting a selfie with a guy (When she never ever does this stuff, not even with her girls).
I've muted her story and now trying to distance myself even more, but I actually feel emotionally drained now...