Helping a depressed guy ?

Maybe he could be speaking to you because he feels comfortable with you. Or maybe he doesn't want to speak with his friends or family as he doesn't want to feel judged, so he is speaking to someone who barely knows him. Depression is a hard thing. The best thing you can do for him is to be there for him. As you suggest, it is important to check up on him often. However, if you are doing this daily, make sure this is not the only reason for contact (i.e. also be a friend to him) or else there is the risk you come off as having a similar impression to a mental health professional, who you say he doesn't want to see. Ask him how he's feeling, but also what he did today, if he watched the latest film or how he feels about something in the news - anything to spice up the conversation a bit.

Also, respect his boundaries - do keep in frequent contact with him, but also acknowledge when he feels uncomfortable or doesn't want to talk anymore. Opening up is hard, so make sure to reassure him and accept when he doesn't feel like talking. He will have both good and bad days, and sometimes he may lash out, but you should remember that this isn't the real him and try to stick by him, however difficult this may be. I would maybe recommend telling his sister that he is confiding in you (but not what he is saying), just for good measure.

I really hope this helps, and feel free to reply or PM me

Hey,

It's great to see your concern and willingness to support someone in need. It's not uncommon for people to open up to unexpected individuals during difficult times. Perhaps he felt a level of trust and comfort with you that made him more willing to share his feelings. As for helping him without appearing intrusive, maintaining a balance is key. You can check in on him daily, but also respect his boundaries and give him space when needed. Let him know that you're there for him and willing to listen whenever he wants to talk, but avoid pressuring him or prying into his personal life. Encourage him to seek professional help as it can make a significant difference, but ultimately it's his decision. Sometimes, simply being a supportive and non-judgmental friend can make a positive impact. Remember to take care of yourself too, as supporting someone with depression can be emotionally challenging.

Thankyou for your detailed reply 🥰,

Yes of course I want to help him as much as I can. I think balance Is the really important thing I'm scared to get wrong. Because ik hes normally so incredibly reserved I'm worried saying the wrong thing or too much might completely shut him off if that makes sense? I don't know weather to wait to see if he reaches out again or if i should check on him? Xx

Hey , thankyou for your amazing reply🥰

I will take your advice in hope I don't come across like overbearing and clingy. His sister isn't aware we are talking but she has actually told me a lot about his past which a lot of it sounds..... unimaginable. He hasn't told me about this but he is aware that she has been telling me things. I was just really surprised he told me anything. I guess I'm just worried about coming across weird / overbearing and making him pull away if that makes sense. Obviously that's by far the last thing I want xx